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NH66
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   Posted 4/4/2007 6:48 AM (GMT -7)   
  Hi everyone,
 
 I just need to vent, i'am having a bad day. I started TOM this morning, which seems to exacerbate my IBS symptoms. Had an appt today to have a oil change on my car, I was cramping so bad with a terrible headache, i just wanted to curl up into a ball. I really don't have time for this, I'am have Easter dinner here. My house looks like a bomb went off in it b/c of home improvments. My husband is in NY playing with cars, he won't be back till friday. We are getting 2-6" of snow today, which means i will have to snow blow the drive-way that is over 400  feet long. I hate this, i am feeling sorry for my self. skull   skull   skull                                                                                                Thanks guys, i needed to get that off my chest.
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7Lil
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   Posted 4/4/2007 3:13 PM (GMT 0)   

((((((NH66))))))

Vent away.  In some way or another we all understand what you are going through.  Life is difficult enough as it is, then you throw in IBS and we have to be even stronger and more resilient.  This may be a difficult time but you can do it… Remember, what doesn’t kill us only makes us stronger.  Just don’t forget to make a little time for you.  Take a bubble bath or use any free couple minutes to put up your feet and tell yourself you can do it.

Lets say you don’t get the house immaculate or you can’t seem to blow the entire driveway – what’s the worst that will happen?  It’s OK to not be perfect.  Just do what you can.

As for TOM, take some Advil or Midol if your gut can handle it.  You may even want to try those sticky heating pads (since you won’t have time to be connected to an electric one).

Good luck!!!!!!


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Keriamon
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   Posted 4/4/2007 8:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Sounds like you need a FlyLady rescue of your house. Get yourself an egg timer and set it for 15 minutes and go through a room picking up the worst of the mess. Make sure you have a laundry basket and a trashbag with you in every room; put things that belong somewhere else in the house in the basket, and trash, obviously, in the bag. When you get done in one room, haul the basket and trashbag with you to the next room. Remove anything from the basket that belongs in that room, put it away, then set your timer for 15 minutes, and go. Don't forget to empty trashcans into your big bag as you go. Don't get down on your hands and knees to scrub the tub; just swipe the sink and counters clean and pull the curtain or door over the tub. If you have some scrubbing bubbles cleaner, spray down the tub as soon as you start cleaning, then when the timer is almost done, run the shower for a few minutes to rinse it out. That'll be good enough. Do 15 minutes in each room and you will probably find that they look decent, even if they're not as company-clean as you'd like. Depending on how well you feel and how much free time you have, you may do 15 minutes in every room every day between now and dinner Sunday, and will probably have the house looking wonderful. But since I assume that everyone knows you're doing remodeling work, they'll understand a bit of a mess, and will probably be more interested in looking at your new cabinets/flooring/appliances/wallpaper/fixtures than looking at a pile of books or papers that has no where to live right now except the living room floor. Sometimes just stacking homeless items up in a small, out-of-the-way corner makes the room look a lot better.

I never have understood northern people's preoccupation with snow blowing. I guess we get so little of it down here that if our driveways get blocked up with it, we just stay home for the most part. Southern people know it will get hot eventually and melt it, lol. If you only get 2 inches, why bother clearing the driveway? That shouldn't be enough snow to really hamper you getting in and out, and it will probably be all melted by the time you have company Sunday anyways. Or just get a big bag of rock salt, scatter it out on the driveway and that should keep snow and ice from acculmulating there in the first place. The few times in my life when we have gotten a goodly snow accumulation, I have never seen anyone shovel snow. If it can't be fully conquered with hot water, rock salt, or kitty litter, it is just plowed through with whatever vehicle you have. Get redneck on that driveway; rednecks don't shovel no snow! (They also don't rake leaves, which is a good excuse to go redneck this fall). Snow is just an opportunity to go off-roading in your 4-wheel drive or all-terrain vehicle.

I feel for you with the oil change. The last several times I went in for an oil change, they found something major wrong with my car. First it was my brakes, and then my serpentine belt needed replacing. I got a second opinion, which confirmed they weren't trying to rip me off at the Sears Auto Center, but all the same, the last time I got my oil changed, I told them DON'T LOOK AT ANYTHING! My car drives quite well when I'm ignorant of its problems, lol.

Don't worry; it will get better. The aunt that's come visiting will go away in a few days and, you'll feel better, your dinner will be a hit and everyone will admire your improvements and your house will look just fine. :-)

NH66
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   Posted 4/4/2007 9:15 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you sooo much, you guys are terrific!!!
Your right, the majority of the mess is on the second floor. No one needs to go up there, i'll just shut the doors.
Keriamon, i love the egg timer and basket idea. Now, if i can keep the kids from destroying the rooms after i clean them. I know, i'll nail there feet to the floor. Just kidding.(LOL)
As for the snow, hopefully we wont get much.(crossing my fingers) I'am also originally from the south, i never saw snow till i was 13.
Have a great day everyone and happy Easter!!!!
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Keriamon
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   Posted 4/4/2007 10:03 AM (GMT -7)   
Lol, I guess you were too far south to know how to get redneck on snow, since you never had any.

Check out www.flylady.org and look on her site for "The House Fairy". Apparently it's this new concept that someone came up with. She's like Santa's sister or something, and "she" comes to your house and checks to see if your room/house is clean. If so, "she" will leave you a little gift (like a fun ink pen or a candy bar--something really small); "she" also usually leaves a little trail of glittering fairy dust so you know "she" came in and had a look around. The people who came up with the idea also sell (at a good price) DVDs and other materials that they will send just to your child(ren) that have helpful messages about the benefits of keeping tidy and how to do it quickly and effectively. A lot of people say that the problem with getting children to keep cleaned up around the house is that they either don't have a good role model, or no one's ever taught them how to tidy; it's just assumed they can figure out something that looks so simple, but really they can't. Anyway, the program is getting rave reviews from people with young kids. A few have even said that their older kids, even teens, have taken to cleaning their rooms just to get the prize, even though they don't believe in the House Fairy. One lady said her older daughter said it was "lame", but after watching the younger siblings get treats, she cleaned up too and then enjoyed her candy from the House Fairy. Gosh, anything to keep from people making a mess as soon as you get it cleaned up; not having to do housework twice always makes you feel better!

NH66
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   Posted 4/4/2007 10:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Kerimon,
What a great site, it was fun reading. My problem is i can't stand anything out of it's place. This may sound really bizarre, but my kitchen floor was a mess from the improvment, tracking saw dust in. I was stressing the whole day waiting for my husband to finish, so i could sweep it up. My poor kids are going to grow up thinking there mom is fruit cake. I'am a perfectionist, i know this, i just can't control it. Last summer we put down hardwood in the family room. My husband made me take the kids camping for the weekend, so i wouldn't drive him nuts.
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Keriamon
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   Posted 4/4/2007 1:34 PM (GMT -7)   
Actually, FlyLady addresses perfectionisst. Most of us are so perfectionist that we shut down and don't do anything because we know we won't do it right the first time, but she's also helped people who are perfectonists that drive everyone else crazy, lol. "Housework done incorrectly still blesses your family." She really preaches that you have to let go of your impossibly-high standards if you ever want anyone else in the house to contribute. If what they do is never good enough, you'll never get any help.

My mother could be that way sometimes. One year she let me decorate the Christmas tree myself and I was no more through with it than she came in and said I didn't have enough ornaments on it, and she moved around what I had put on there and put more on that she wanted. What was the point of giving it to me to do in the first place? I never decorated another Christmas tree in our house again. You have to watch out for doing stuff like that.

Of course, your own health is at stake as you know worrying and being anxious is bad for your guts. You need to just tell yourself that no one's going to die from sawdust on the floor and you can clean it up in a little while. You may even find if you let it set for a bit that someone else will clean it up for you. Going off into some other part of the house, or going out of the house may have to

NH66
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   Posted 4/6/2007 3:58 PM (GMT -7)   
Kerimon,
I'am still reading FLYLady and enjoying it. There is some really funny stuff in there. The shoe part hit the nail on the head for me. No one wears shoes in the house, just slippers. Keeps the dirt down and the floors for getting scratched.
My husband is now home, sitting on cloud 9, he met his idol while in NY.
I told my kids to go up and clean there rooms, they came to me about 1/2 hour later. There very happy asking me to come see there rooms, so i went to see, well i am very proud of both my boys they did a fantastic job. I really mean that, i could not believe how well they did.

Thank you so much for all your support. I hope you have a great Easter.
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