Father passed away, now flaring

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Jenny S.
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   Posted 1/6/2008 7:07 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello all,
I hope everyone had a happy & safe new year.  :)
My father passed away on Dec. 26 at the age of 57 from a heart attack.  I've been doing my best to comfort my Mom who is taking all of this pretty hard.  In the mean time, my Lupus has been flaring.  I'm having significant swelling, joint pain, & fatigue.  I know I should go see my Rhumy, but at the same time I've been battling a discrimination lawsuit with my employer for 3 months - so money is pretty tight after the holiday season.  I know many of you will be able to relate to my situation, but I just cannot get the flare to calm because I miss my Dad so much.  I've never lost an immediate family member that was so close to me.  To make matters worse, my Mom lives 3 hours from my house.  The good news is that I can visit her anytime because I don't have a job. :-)   
I'm not really looking for advice or suggestions, just a shoulder to lean on right now during this time of sadness.  Thank you for reading.


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Dx: Raynaud's(2000)·Lupus(2001)

Rx: Pletal 100mg·Norvasc 10mg·Prednisone 5mg·Plaquenil 400mg


Post Edited (Jenny S.) : 1/6/2008 5:52:57 PM (GMT-7)

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   Posted 1/6/2008 8:35 PM (GMT -6)   
((((((((((Jenny & Mom))))))))))))

Be sure click on the link my signature "Lupus Resources" . . . there is a post in there for Flare Care (infor provided by Lynnwood). I hope you'll at least call your rheumy . . . they may just up your pred for a small time and then taper you back down to quench this flare. Don't let it go rampant sis . . . its so hard to pull out of downward spiral if you don't catch it quickly.

Prayer, hugs . . . and of course . . . a nice hot pot of tea for you and your mom.


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   Posted 1/6/2008 9:32 PM (GMT -6)   
((((( Jenny ))))) I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your dad. I lost my mother in law several years ago and it is still hard to cope with at times. I agree with Rosie, at least call your rheumy and see if there is anything he can give you to help with the flare. Other than that just take good care of yourself, eat right, get plenty of rest and stay hydrated. I know how hard this is right now, lean on your friends and family and know we are here for you. I wish I could say more that would help you but I know there's really not a lot anyone can do right now. Just know you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. **hugs** to you!!!

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   Posted 1/6/2008 9:43 PM (GMT -6)   
Jenny, I'm very sorry to hear of your loss.  I hope that you and your mom can support each other through this time and help one another stay well.
Hugs to you both,
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   Posted 1/7/2008 5:19 AM (GMT -6)   
Jenny and Mom, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.  If either of you needs to have a good cry, we are here to listen.  My prayers are with you.  Love, Donna

Dx: SLE diagnosed 2005, major depressive disorder, diabetes, fibromyalgia, gerd, sleep apnea (use a CPAP), hypertension, IBS
Tx: plaquenil, methotrexate, Imuran, prednisone, prozac, celebrex, lisinopril, actos, lipitor, nexeum, seroquel, arthritis tylenol  PRN: ambien, neurontin, promethazine, xanax
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   Posted 1/7/2008 10:02 AM (GMT -6)   
(((((Jenny))))) I'm so sorry to hear about your dad - he was so young. I can't imagine what this must be like for you and your mom right now. Is there any way you could stay with your mom for a little while so you can be there for each other? I'm also sorry to hear about your flare and I hope you do call your rheumy.

Know that we are here for you through all of this. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Diagnosis:  UCTD (lupus) 2006; Raynauds 2006; Sjogren's 2006; lupus symptoms began 2003; CFS 1991; Mono 1985
Meds:  Plaquenil 400mg; Prednisone 5-10mg; Tramadol 100mg 3-4x daily; Doxepin 25-50mg; Prevacid; Steriod Cream and Mouth Rinse for tongue and mouth ulcers; Hydrocodone 5/500 prn for severe pain; Artificial tears



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