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meeks
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   Posted 7/1/2008 6:50 PM (GMT -7)   
today I asked to meet with my manager due to a certain vibe I was sensing thru out the dept, it was kinda hostile. So I had questions & concerns i wanted to have addressed. All of a sudden it turned into "because you've been sick lately....", or "because of your illness..." this, that, and the other. She goes on to say " We(upper management) plans on making changes in the dept. regarding how our work is processed. and there are higher expectations, which might be very stressful and that may cause your illness to flare up...you may need to check out what other dept. have openings"
Although she was being gentle and heartfelt w/ the info.
I wasn't
getting fired, written up or put on warning.(according to my manager)

I felt like crap, b/c basically I was told that I'm a horrible worker and it's all due to me having this disease...not true. All of my
former managers have told me that my work ethic is aewsome, I get my work done, I'm prompt, I'm courteous. I know my role as an employee. I don't sh** away my day by not doing work.

oddly enough, after our little "
meeting" she had advised me to keep what was discussed private....hmmmmm? why? Mind you there was no "writes-ups" or "performance evals" given. So me thinks something is fishy here?
if i were to take this to a law office would I have a case, IF they tried to fire me based on my illness


Diagnosis :Lupus (SLE)- Feb.2005.
Meds: Prednisone - 20mg-5mg (taper down since April)
Tramadol 50mg
Furosemide 40 mg
Benadryl 25mg
*I've been prescribed other drugs, but I don't like how they make me feel..Sulfalalazine especially!!!
Vitamins:  Vitamin C, E and "Hair, skin & nails" vitamins.

Usual mood: exhausted w/ a side of irratation. >:-p

Outlook: keep everything in prespective, take the day as it comes. God won't give you more than you can handle

 


 

Post Edited (meeks) : 7/1/2008 10:00:28 PM (GMT-6)


AlwaysRosie
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   Posted 7/1/2008 6:58 PM (GMT -7)   
(((((((((( Meeks ))))))))))))

I'm NOT up on employment law . . . so I can't respond with any intelligence. But I wanted to send you a huge hug. *sigh* Sorry you have to deal with ignorant management!

Blessings!

In His Grip

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meeks
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   Posted 7/1/2008 7:07 PM (GMT -7)   
THANK YOU ROSIE
I just wanted to know if anyone knows anything about
this matter thru experience or knows a friend that had this happen to.
 
I think its better for me to go, then work somewhere I'm not really wanted
Diagnosis :Lupus (SLE)- Feb.2005.
Meds: Prednisone - 20mg-5mg (taper down since April)
Tramadol 50mg
Furosemide 40 mg
Benadryl 25mg
*I've been prescribed other drugs, but I don't like how they make me feel..Sulfalalazine especially!!!
Vitamins:  Vitamin C, E and "Hair, skin & nails" vitamins.

Usual mood: exhausted w/ a side of irratation. >:-p

Outlook: keep everything in prespective, take the day as it comes. God won't give you more than you can handle

 


 


AlwaysRosie
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   Posted 7/1/2008 7:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Meeks . . . it depends on how badly you need a job . . . what jobs are available. . . how this would affect your health insurance . . . etc etc. *sigh*

Blessings!

In His Grip

AlwaysRosie           "We can't control the waves, but we can learn how to surf!!"

Psalms 139

Co-Moderator - Lupus Forum

UCTD, Inflammatory Arthritis, Diverticulosis, (recent dx - Sjogrens, Crohn’s 4/08)

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redrose77
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   Posted 7/1/2008 7:23 PM (GMT -7)   
I think her comments were unethical if you are doing your job. I also think if she tries to fire you or lay you off or downsize you she is doing it because of your illness no matter what she says. I would discuss this with Human Resources. Her comments are something that she should not be saying if she isn't writing you up. Even then she would be in deep doo-doo because it is all based on your illness.
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joinery
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   Posted 7/1/2008 8:53 PM (GMT -7)   
Meeks, I had something like that happen to me. I had a operation went back to work in 3 weeks and still felt bad. I must say I did slow my work down because they were giving more and more to do. I trained people I always had 150% All the superviser like me cause I got the work done. After the Operation she turned on me and very unethical, I (CRIED) went to anther cowoker and I told her what she said, I took her advice and went H.R.they talk to her.. other woman also were complaining about her they were pregant. She had to go to anger managment. Well I know longer work there because my illness took over. I really did like my job. But the lupus was getting the best of me. I still worked 3yrs after that happen. and had no more problems. Good Luck.. Debbie
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Lynnwood
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   Posted 7/1/2008 9:52 PM (GMT -7)   
Regardless of what other actions you choose to make, there is one thing I highly recommend.

Make written, dated notes of this interaction and any future interactions you have about this, esp. with this person and with anyone related to the company.

Notes like this, especially if handwritten, dated, and signed, hold weight in court and will be very, very helpful should this ever turn into a 'firing' or 'downsizing' type situation. Even keep a copy of your post -- even a week from now your memory of what happened might change a bit -- notes taken on or close to the event are important.

Everything everyone has mentioned are items to be considered -- what you decide will vary depending on the size of your company, your financial situation (keeping health insurance coverage is a HUGE deal), whether you have someone else helping support your home (usually spouse), how big your city is, what other job options are available, and so many other things that are specific to you and your situation (including your health status).

If you can wrangle a phone call to an employment rights attorney, they can usually quickly tell you over the phone if they are willing to take your case or if nothing is wrong YET -- I know they will tell you to take the notes.

Good luck, and don't let the suckers get to you

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sjkly
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   Posted 7/2/2008 1:41 PM (GMT -7)   
Lynnwood has given you very good advice. Hand written, dated, detailed notes with direct quotes and summarizing any contacts is very important. Also record the names of any witnesses.
Sj

meeks
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Date Joined Dec 2007
Total Posts : 27
   Posted 7/2/2008 6:46 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi, everyone
thanks for the information.
this is such a utter disappointment to me, unfair to say the least.
I know before I made a post that my job was stressing me out to the point of quitting
but that would have been on my own accord, getting forced out is a whole 'notha
can of worms.
I don't know what I should do now? should I wait for the axe or try to get outta there before hand.


Diagnosis :Lupus (SLE)- Feb.2005.
Meds: Prednisone - 20mg-5mg (taper down since April)
Tramadol 50mg
Furosemide 40 mg
Benadryl 25mg
*I've been prescribed other drugs, but I don't like how they make me feel..Sulfalalazine especially!!!
Vitamins:  Vitamin C, E and "Hair, skin & nails" vitamins.

Usual mood: exhausted w/ a side of irratation. >:-p

Outlook: keep everything in prespective, take the day as it comes. God won't give you more than you can handle

 


 

Post Edited (meeks) : 7/2/2008 8:53:21 PM (GMT-6)

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