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PattyLatty
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   Posted 8/21/2008 8:01 AM (GMT -7)   
I need to vent. I've worked myself into a flare and now another situation has come up and I think I might just scream. At my husband.

Yesterday I learned that the folks who want to make an offer on our house think they saw termites in the garage. So my termite guy came out yesterday and confirmed that we have termites. Before he an treat for them - tomorrow - I have to move everything out from the walls. That means clear everything off the shelves that line all 3 walls, the work bench, etc. by this afternoon. We have a LOT of stuff in the garage since I moved a lot out of the house so it would show better. (We're using the garage to store my daughter's college furniture & boxes, furniture that other of our kids' are planning to pick up, plus garage things that go to our new house.) Then have the walls re-sheetrocked and painted. All within a couple of days. I'm the only one who can sort through that stuff and decide what goes and what stays and who gets what, and even though it's organized, the whole idea of it just makes me want to cry. My hubby's not at all supportive, and when I asked him if he'd call his son to see if he still wanted a particular chair he said, No, I have to work all day. Can't you call him? Geez, what do I do all day? I work till I go into a flare, which I'm in right now.

I'm doing this entire move, remodel of both houses, etc. all by myself. When I told him about the garage, he said why don't you hire someone to come and just haul everything off? Sometimes he thinks things are so easy. I asked him, "so you want someone to haul away our fishing poles, your workbench and tools (he wouldn't know where a hammer or a lightbulb were if you asked him for one), our boxes of wine glasses, your grilling supplies, etc.?" of course he doesn't. He hasn't a clue.

I'm just feeling so bad and the idea of spending the next few days working so hard makes me want to crawl under a rock and go to sleep.

I know that no one in the world understands except for you guys, and if not for you I think I'd go absolutely crazy.

Well, off to work.
Lupus, osteoarthritis, fibro, renauds, restless leg, hiatal hernia, double vision, migraines, costocondritis.
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Lynnwood
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   Posted 8/21/2008 9:21 AM (GMT -7)   
Hubby sure could have made a couple of calls & helped you out at whole lot! Bad hubby.

Sorry you are being saddled with so much, especially with already being in a flare. I wish I could bottle and send you either a flare cure or a week to rest...sigh.

Maybe there is something in between chucking it all and sorting it all...like hire someone to put it all in the driveway, cover it with tarps while the work is being done, and then put it all back in the garage? I'm sure even that sounds difficult to do -- everything is SO difficult when flaring.

Part of the problem with being good at your job (in your case, the job is house moving!) is that you never get cut a break -- you have to force yourself to stop. The world really won't end if you do.

Please take care of your health first, or at least try. Sending healing thoughts your way.

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puccini914
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   Posted 8/21/2008 9:50 AM (GMT -7)   
I can totally relate, Patty.((((((((((((((Patty)))))))))))))))) We just moved and I have two small boys, 5 and 1. He didn't seem to think that we need to baby proof as we go. I'm here cleaning, unpacking and sorting, the 1 yr old is getting into everything (just learned to walk) the 5 yr old is hyper and bored and just wants to aggravate his brother and I need to get everything so it's at least safe for the kids to move around in. Yesterday I moved a huge armoire by myself, because I was so tired of asking hubby every night to do it and him being too tired from working all day. I'm in flare as well and taking too much pain meds, I dread the day the doctors cut me off, I' ll not be able to get anything done. I know my body is telling me to slow down, that it's just too much and worse pain etc could be on the way, but my kids have to be safe and comfortable in their own home. By the way, the 5yr old has now regressed in his potty training, he doesn't do well with change. You can't really tell hubby's everthing that's wrong with you because then you sound like a whiner or they get so distressed, because Lord knows, men can't handle anything they can't fix. Prayers and well wishes are on the way.

Jennifer

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Ginny
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   Posted 8/21/2008 1:56 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh Patty ((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))),
 
I also know what it's like to carry the burden.  Why don't men understand??  I'm kicking your hubby in the ass right now (KICK)
 
Just take it slow.  Slow. Slow, slow, slow.  Give yourself lots of breaks.  And when you're done, you're done.  Hubby can do the rest when he gets home.  Don't give him a choice. Basically, if he doesn't do it, the termite guys can't get in there, and your house might not get sold.  Make it very point blank to him.  And if you have to Patty, if hubby doesn't get his butt in gear, hire some guys to haul it all away.  That'll teach him!
 
Love ya Patty,
 
Ginny
I can do anything through Jesus Christ who strengthens me. I have learned in whatever state I am in,to be content. Phillipians 4:11-13

34 years old. Diagnosed with lupus in 2000. Fibromyalgia, anti-phospholipid syndrome(APS)(stroke),Sjogren's, Raynaud's, seizure disorder-(miraclulously disappeared!), Libman Sach's Endocarditis, vasculitis, sacroiliitis, arthritis (neck) . Prednisone, Imuran, Coumadin, Clobazam, Amitriptyline, didrocal, Cozaar, calcium, Cykolokapron, multi-vitamin, vitamin D, Magnesium, vitamin B6, Acidophilus


Trying2BFree
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   Posted 8/21/2008 1:56 PM (GMT -7)   

I'm sorry Patty.  nono Shame on hubby!

I vote that you call a handy man service and get someone to move the stuff while you sit in a lawn chair and supervise!


Jeannie 
SLE diagnosis 10/05 now changed to RA 3/06, Endometriosis 5/05, PCOS 1990
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PattyLatty
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   Posted 8/21/2008 3:15 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for your support guys, and for the DH kicks in the you know what. I called a friend, woke up my daughter, and got my son-in-law over here to help and we got it done. Half-way through the work some weird green things fell out of a chair onto the floor and I stopped breathing, called the exterminator and asked if they had ever used green pellets to kill mice. She looked up my records and said yes and that I had better get my dogs to the vet ASAP. My dogs had been in the garage and playing outside while we worked all morning. Now I'm a nervous wreck. They've had blood work, were made to throw up etc. and are on medication & go back Tuesday for more blood work. We don't know if the dogs ate any or not, but they're the bad kind if they did. So far the bill's only up to $550 and you'd better believe that exterminator's going to pay every penny of that. They were never told nor authorized to put any kind of mouse bait in my garage and they know I have little dogs. Right now they're both napping beside me and I've decided to quit my job and let someone else handle the move. I'm taking the dogs to the Bahamas. Or maybe Dallas. Or maybe just down to the Holiday Inn. And now I'm going to take a long nap so I'll be ready to get back to work in the morning. That was a short vacation.

But you're right, Lynn, the world won't end if I don't do this all just perfectly. You ought to see how much stuff I gave away, threw away, and have yet to throw away.

Jennifer, I know how bad you felt while you were moving with two young children. I can't imagine anything harder than that. Nothing. Thanks Jeannie and Ginny. You guys are the best. It feels better just to be able to vent with friends who can relate. This too will end and I'll be able to spend time relaxing. I'm really ready to start camping out in the new house. I think we'll be able to in a couple of weeks. I don't care if we have furniture or not! Just a quiet place to relax with my doggies.

Tomorrow will be a better day. Hope all is well with you guys.

And dear Barb, thanks for calling me. You're such a dear. My computer crashed this morning and I can't charge my phone. I'm on my daughter's laptop but I can't use it to charge my phone because it will try to sync it with hers. I'll try to call you tomorrow.
Lupus, osteoarthritis, fibro, renauds, restless leg, hiatal hernia, double vision, migraines, costocondritis.
cellcept, neurontin, prednisone, plaquenil, synthroid, triamterene, tramadol, actonel, tri-est, imitrex, cymbalta, tricor, acifex, multivitamin, calcium w vit D, fish oil, aspirin


Ginny
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   Posted 8/21/2008 3:20 PM (GMT -7)   
OH no!!! Thank goodness you got the dogs to the vet asap.  Did you call the exterminators?  That is really dangerous and very neglectful on their part.  I'd make them pay the bill too.
 
Enjoy your new home Patty and have a really good night. I'm so glad you had help this afternoon. WHEW!!
I can do anything through Jesus Christ who strengthens me. I have learned in whatever state I am in,to be content. Phillipians 4:11-13

34 years old. Diagnosed with lupus in 2000. Fibromyalgia, anti-phospholipid syndrome(APS)(stroke),Sjogren's, Raynaud's, seizure disorder-(miraclulously disappeared!), Libman Sach's Endocarditis, vasculitis, sacroiliitis, arthritis (neck) . Prednisone, Imuran, Coumadin, Clobazam, Amitriptyline, didrocal, Cozaar, calcium, Cykolokapron, multi-vitamin, vitamin D, Magnesium, vitamin B6, Acidophilus


okie
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   Posted 8/21/2008 4:56 PM (GMT -7)   
Boy Patty, when it rain it pours! I'm glad it got done but it would have been cheaper to have someone over there than to have you and the dogs arounds to get sick. I sure hope they are going to be ok. I poisoned my dog about a week ago. using some flea killer on him. He couldn't tolerate it and next thing ya know he was in the hospital all night. On the hand I agree hubby need to be kicked. Of course I'm in the mood to kick just about any one right now. Gee Patty what's wrong with us? I mean aren't we supposed to be super human or somthing? Lift that barge and tote that bail or what ever the he** that saying is? Life sucks but hey ya got it done. No put up your feet and relax.
love ya
carol
 
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AlwaysRosie
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   Posted 8/21/2008 5:03 PM (GMT -7)   
((((((((((((( Patty )))))))))))))

Hugs and blessings!

In His Grip

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smokeyswife
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   Posted 8/21/2008 6:11 PM (GMT -7)   
Aww Patty I am sorry to hear that this is all falling on you to get it done. That is usually the way it is, sometimes men are such big babies. I hope you can calm down and settled before you make yourself sicker then you are right now.
 
Connie
 
 
 
 
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jhmom
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   Posted 8/21/2008 6:39 PM (GMT -7)   
(((( Pat ))))) men can be such knuckle heads sometimes! Take it easy and give those babies (dogs) some extra hugs tonight. Get some rest and do what you can tomorrow and let the others tote the load! Hugs and love to ya
Stacie

Trust in the Lord with all thine heart, and lean not unto thine own understanding ~ Proverbs 3:5 ~

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PattyLatty
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   Posted 8/22/2008 1:46 PM (GMT -7)   
I fell asleep with my pups at 5:00 p.m. last night. My hubby got home at 7:00 and picked up the house, emptied the dishwasher, swept outside, and, wait a minute, did I say hubby? He doesn't know we own a broom. He feels real bad about what happened and wanted to show me how bad he felt. He means well but sometimes just forgets to think.

Pups are feeling well today and act like everything is fine. Garage is clean and my work is done for the day. Nap time. Hope all of you are well and that you have a wonderful and relaxing weekend!!!!

Love you all,

Pat

P.S. That vent felt great!
Lupus, osteoarthritis, fibro, renauds, restless leg, hiatal hernia, double vision, migraines, costocondritis.
cellcept, neurontin, prednisone, plaquenil, synthroid, triamterene, tramadol, actonel, tri-est, imitrex, cymbalta, tricor, acifex, multivitamin, calcium w vit D, fish oil, aspirin


Lynnwood
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   Posted 8/22/2008 3:01 PM (GMT -7)   
Yay! So glad hubby is back with the program and that you & the pups are doing better!

Lynnwood, Co-Moderator: Lupus Forum
SLE(’00), Sjogren's Syndrome, Raynaud's Syndrome, SAD, Depression, Herpes Simplex 1
Piroxicam, Plaquenil, Prednisone(was 15mg, now 8mg), Cellcept, Xanax, Trazodone, Boniva(3mth shot), Wellbrutrin SR, Valtrex
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