I did not have a very good experience with mates and my lupus. And have decided to just live the rest of my life alone. It is better than the constant stress to me, of being sick, but not looking sick. Of being sick with a fever one time, so badly I had fever blisters in such abundance that it turned my lips inside out. Had to drink chicken broth through a straw for such a long time. Once the fever arrived, and the blisters, my husband finally believed I was really sick. but the hassle before then, the constant nagging to clean up the house, just wasn't worth it to me.
It wasn't until years later that an older doctor here diagnosed me with Lupus the first time. i was 27. which I promptly ignored when the pain went away. I forgot about this diagnoses until the other day. young and foolish woman that I was.
But some women i have talked to had a very good response from their husbands.
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