I started a new topic for you so others will know we have a new member.
Sounds like you might benefit from a little "pacing" in your life. We've learned that if we alternate activity and rest, in a ratio that is beneficial to our needs on any particular day/week, that we actually heal much faster. So if I am in a flare and doing really poorly, I might be active for 5 minutes and rest for 20-40 minutes. Then go back and pick up on that activity (like making dinner or picking up around the house) and then rest. Problem is . . . this is REALLY impossible when you are working outside the home. Gradually I increase the activity time, as my body heals . . . and I'm rest less and less . . . but I always fit in frequent time to get my feet up and rest several times through the day. This has helped give me my life back. It won't always work . . . but it is one thing we do have a lot of control over.
I also find that if I push my walking program to hard or fast or long, I actually deteriorate instead of getting stronger. So after years of hitting my head against a wall . . . willing my body to obey . . . and getting poor results . . . I'm finally pacing and doing way better.
Your post sounds like you aren't working at the moment. I'm so sorry that things got so difficult for you. There are some great members here who have been WAY helpful to me. I hope you enjoy the forum.
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Post Edited (AlwaysRosie) : 11/10/2008 7:57:24 AM (GMT-7)