Brain fog dementia and my dog died

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cured4real?
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   Posted 2/26/2009 8:00 PM (GMT -7)   
My dad came up to take away a car he was selling to my son that we couldn't afford to fix. He was really grumpy and is a dumper. I have been in the middle and it is really flipping me out that as his daughter he didn't notice me limping around the yard as I tried to assist him. He asked nothing about my health and was self consumed.
 
He brought his cousin who wanted to see my puppies since he has a small dog.  I let my little chi puppies out and we both played with them in my fenced yard. My dad was growing stressed working on the car, and began ordering me around to get him tools.
 
Im so sad because I get so confused and I want to please everyone and I can't handle alot of confusion anymore because my memory is horrible and I rushed to get the tools so he wouldn't get mad and my worst neighbor came driving up speeding on our private dirt road and my puppies got out through the fence and went after the car. I didn't even see it and didn't hear it until my little dog started yelping. My neighbor rolled down her window and yelled "I ran over your dog".  I came up upset and asked if she could at the very least get out of her car and lift my dog over the fence for me because I can't walk well, which she did before speeding off. She also ran over her sister in laws dog intheir own driveway and didn't even stop or acknowledge it and didn't even care when told. She has run over at least three dogs we know of.
 
Anyway, I had to have the dog put down and it took the last money I had.  My boyfriend got home and yelled at me telling me that it was all my fault, that I was too stupid to even watch the dogs and I felt that way myself.
 
I'm so bad now, I just forget everything now, keys, I even locked myself out of my house that very morning. I feel just terrible.  The cousin didn't do anything to stop the whole mess, I think he was day dreaming.
 
I have six acres and only two neighbors and there are two ways out from her house and my house is between them. THe dogs don't go after anything the other way but she cant stand driving the extra twelve feet. My other neighbors and even her own husband drive slow to make sure there are no dogs around and have never hit anyones dogs. The dogs started chasing the cars when the neighbors husband called them out to his truck when he was driving home because he liked them. He is a nice guy but I think it was bad for the dogs. The roads are deserted all day, but it seems like the minute I let thm out to play with them and let them run a little, which is why i have six acres, this woman comes along.
 
I'm just so sad this confusion and brain fog and forgetfulness cost my poor dog her life. It just happened so fast and I can't do two things at once anymore. I just can't stand the stress either and feel so bad. I'm sorry to unload, I just wish things were different. I don't know what's wrong with my head. I'm getting just like my mom and grandma. My hearing has been weird lately due to parotiditis and possible ear infections.
 
Thanks for listening. I'm sorry such a sad story. Its so frustrating because I don't want to be this way but often don't knowI"m forgettingsomething.
Love, Marji
Ills--Sjogrens-Lupus cond., AI polygland. dysfunction 2, hyper/hypopigment, scoliosis,kyphosis,stenosis, deg.,O.A.,spine surgeries, salivary/lymphectomies, NASH, COPD, RLS, UT/GI bleeds, hystero, brain/nerve damage,TB
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firebabe
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   Posted 2/27/2009 6:48 AM (GMT -7)   
Sorry about your dog. Isn't that the pits-my dog was hit by a car too and the person just drove off. Although my neighbor happened to see it and stopped to let me know that my dog was in the road dead. In order to help me feel better I wrote a journal entry just about my dog-all the things that I loved about him and how I would miss him. It still makes me feel better to read about him when I come across that journal entry. As for your neighbor HOW RUDE! She obviously doesn't know that animals become one of the family and if you hit a member of someone's family you don't just shrug it off. I guess there's always Karma! Take care.
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jhmom
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   Posted 2/27/2009 8:57 AM (GMT -7)   
((((( Marji ))))) I am so sorry for then loss of your dog and for the way your family is treating you. I wish I had some words of wisdom for you, all I can do is say a prayer for you! Hang in there!
Stacie
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conorsmom
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   Posted 2/27/2009 10:41 AM (GMT -7)   
Marji, I'm sorry to hear about your dog, but it ISN"T your fault. That woman should be arrested and charged with animal cruelty.  I have brain fog and a CT of my head in Sept. showed areas of cerebral anoxia damage from a coma I was in Sept.of 2007.  I have to write everything down and have lost memory of things I did before the coma.  I also have fibro and know all too well how bad this affects you. You really need to not worry about all the  people in your life who are stressing you out,which just makes your fibro worse. Take care and you are in my thoughts and prayers.
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cured4real?
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   Posted 2/27/2009 12:18 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you Tammy, Stacie, and conorsmom for such kind and thoughtful replies. I have been grateful that everyone is gone today and I am alone, because I function better most of the time when I'm alone because there are less needy people distracting me. I'm so tired of being "the hub", like all women seem to be, but the worst of it is that no one understands and accepts that my mind just doesn't work as well as it used to. They can't seem to accept that. And they want me to go along with their ability levels physically as well but I can't and because they can't see a scar or my leg isn't cut off, they just don't get it. I try to do things, I don't like being left out. But no amount of spoon theory will ever make my father realize that I am really ill. THank you for understanding.

Thanks for the help. I also have to deal with a further away neighbor with two horses with no shelter on a fifty foot by fifty foot electric fenced lot infront of their house. I want to turn them in but I don't know if I can deal with the resulting stress and potential threats. People need licenses to keep horses, I think.
Love, Marji
Ills--Sjogrens-Lupus cond., AI polygland. dysfunction 2, hyper/hypopigment, scoliosis,kyphosis,stenosis, deg.,O.A.,spine surgeries, salivary/lymphectomies, NASH, COPD, RLS, UT/GI bleeds, hystero, brain/nerve damage,TB
Meds--INH,Plaquenil, Evoxac, Metformin, Synthroid, HCTZ, HRT and Lidocaine patchs, Voltaren gel, Klonopin, Vicodin, Restasis, Albuterol, steroids


conorsmom
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   Posted 2/27/2009 12:59 PM (GMT -7)   
Marji,
You and I are so alike! I too am the "hub" of the family. I have brain fog and also cognitive dysfunction due to cerebral anoxia in 2007. I can't walk more than 20 feet without getting winded due to the lupus pneumonitis and pain. And although my parents are gone, my brother,who is my only relative, refuses to believe I am disabled and that everything is in my head. But he got an eyeful last Sept when I was unconscious and intubated on a ventilator in ICU. He apparently came and visited me.  But he still refuses to talk to me after he got mad at me 5 years ago on Christmas when I was supposed to go to his house for Christmas dinner and at 4p I was taking a nap; we weren't supposed to be there til 5p and he lived 10 minutes away.
I am grateful that my niece, who is 17 and my nephew, who is 21, still email me and my nephew comes to my house when he's home from college. I think they know that my brother was wrong but wouldn't say so.
Hang in there! Better days are ahead!!! (Hugs)  
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cured4real?
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   Posted 2/27/2009 2:39 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm so sorry about that conors mom, I know how you feel. Some relatives can't admit they are wrong about us and would rather continue to be cruel to us than to shatter their own view of themselves as perfect people. Its funny, because I'm sure you, like me and most of us don't even care about the past and all that and just want the future to be better. Thanks so much for the suppot and I hope you stay well as can be.
Love, Marji
Ills--Sjogrens-Lupus cond., AI polygland. dysfunction 2, hyper/hypopigment, scoliosis,kyphosis,stenosis, deg.,O.A.,spine surgeries, salivary/lymphectomies, NASH, COPD, RLS, UT/GI bleeds, hystero, brain/nerve damage,TB
Meds--INH,Plaquenil, Evoxac, Metformin, Synthroid, HCTZ, HRT and Lidocaine patchs, Voltaren gel, Klonopin, Vicodin, Restasis, Albuterol, steroids


conorsmom
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   Posted 2/27/2009 2:50 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Marji! My name is actually Sandy, and I am Conor's mom.
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aimsgirl16
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   Posted 2/27/2009 3:30 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh Marji...Bless your heart! You seem to be going through so much right now. If one of my neighbors did what your rude neighbor did, I would probably get arrested for giving her what she deserves! That is absolutly redicioulous. I would deffinaltly call the police and let them know how many dogs she has run over. Maybe they can say something to her to make her be more cautisous...(I can't spell very well, sry) As far as your family goes, I am sorry. If you say something to them would it help? Tell them you are having a bad day? and your boyfriend...Don't listen to what he said. It is not your fault in the least. He shouldn't be calling you stupid or anything like that. You need to have encouragement and love not put downs. I hope things start looking up for you!

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cured4real?
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   Posted 2/27/2009 7:07 PM (GMT -7)   
Well, she finally started driving around the other way, which solves the problem. I talked to animal protection today about the horses my neighbors have, and really, while she is inconsiderate and not an animal lover, my dogs did get through the fence into the road. We have lots of lose dogs in the neighborhood, most of us drive slow, at least at first to see if there are any lose. She doesn't.

I don't know how she explains these things to her little children. I just hope she is careful enough not to run over them. Thanks for the kind reply and support. It seems like she's got some kind of problem to me, but it's not anything that I can do anything about.

As for my family, not talking to them definitely helps. That and a nice bath. Thanks again and Im so sorry to hear ou are going thrugh this so young. Iwas 28 when I got sick. I hope you are staying well.
Love, Marji
Ills--Sjogrens-Lupus cond., AI polygland. dysfunction 2, hyper/hypopigment, scoliosis,kyphosis,stenosis, deg.,O.A.,spine surgeries, salivary/lymphectomies, NASH, COPD, RLS, UT/GI bleeds, hystero, brain/nerve damage,TB
Meds--INH,Plaquenil, Evoxac, Metformin, Synthroid, HCTZ, HRT and Lidocaine patchs, Voltaren gel, Klonopin, Vicodin, Restasis, Albuterol, steroids


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   Posted 2/28/2009 5:56 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Marji. I'm so very sorry for you and your dog. It's bad enough you have to deal with terrible memory problems (I still think about forgetting my daughter's graduation last month), but now a member of your family got ran over and you had to put her down. You had so much going on. It isn't your fault. I agree with Tammy that Karma will provide justice. The funny thing is, people like that don't even realize why crap just falls out of the sky on them. That's okay- we do. Love, Donna

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   Posted 2/28/2009 10:48 AM (GMT -7)   
Oh Marji, I"m so sorry. This entire situation is completely terrible. I'm sending you hugs and prayers.
 
Love you,
Ginny
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cured4real?
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   Posted 3/1/2009 1:53 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Ginny and Donna, you guys are great. Doing much better. My little boy pup that was so close to her is now being lavished to ease his pain. And my old dog is still with me and a great comfort. I just got done taking pictures of someone down the road from me with eight horses on an acre of muck, standing in water, with mud hay for food and tipped over buckets. Another horse was confined to a small pen where they had dug a hole for water to collect in as the water for the horse and no food, and all muck, with two big piles of dirt in the pen to further limit the horses ability to move. A woman came out of her house as I took pictures and saw my car, so that is not good. They have been turned in when they only had two horses and AP did nothing. Now they have eight. It is so gross. And they have plenty of trucks go carts and toys, but no money to build a barn or shed to get rid of the horses. Its terrible. Sonny Perdue must really hate animals. We have one AP person for 13 counties. Sorry this ramble is off topic.
Love, Marji
Ills--Sjogrens-Lupus cond., AI polygland. dysfunction 2, hyper/hypopigment, scoliosis,kyphosis,stenosis, deg.,O.A.,spine surgeries, salivary/lymphectomies, NASH, COPD, RLS, UT/GI bleeds, hystero, brain/nerve damage,TB
Meds--INH,Plaquenil, Evoxac, Metformin, Synthroid, HCTZ, HRT and Lidocaine patchs, Voltaren gel, Klonopin, Vicodin, Restasis, Albuterol, steroids

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