Need to cut back on work and not sure how to do it.

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firebabe
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   Posted 8/21/2009 10:53 AM (GMT -7)   
So, I work full-time and lately I've been so tired and achey that I don't want to work as much.  My hubby says that if I have to cut back he's okay with it and we shouldn't have to worry about money.  However, I was promoted to a new position last year and I'm a supervisor now and alot of my job duties are really important to business everyday.  I'm really just afraid to go to my supervisor to let them know that I can't handle a 40 hour work week right now.  I'm afraid that I will lose my promotion and I love my job.  I'm afraid that they will see me as weak and others around me will grumble because they will have to pick up the slack.  I'm so torn!  It's Friday afternoon and I hurt so bad I don't want to return to work after lunch is over.  I just want to crawl back into bed and sleep.  Im not sure of my rights as an employee who is going to try to request less hours, and I'm really afraid to lose out on my benefits. 
 
If anyone has experience with this here, please help.
 
Thank you!
 
Tammy
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 "Challenges make you discover things about yourself you never really knew."
 SLE and Class II Lupus Nephritis


Weleetka
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   Posted 8/21/2009 11:10 AM (GMT -7)   
I feel for you... I don't have any suggestions... but best wishes to you... and I hope you can be better soon...

Lynnwood
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   Posted 8/21/2009 12:44 PM (GMT -7)   
I would suggest that you check with the Human Resources dept and see what the company has for short-term-disability and/or long-term-disability coverage & what the rules are for going on/off it.

See what your companies rules are for benefits for part-time vs full-time, and what the cutoffs are (some say any over 20 is full-time, some use different #hrs to decide benefits.)

States rule differently on whether they can dismiss you for being ill, check what you state says.

Check with you doctor(s) and see if they are willing to write you a letter/prescription for fewer hours.

Then once you have all that information available, you & hubby can sit down and see what options work out best for you guys.

Then, and only then, mention it at work!

good luck
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Agmaar
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   Posted 8/21/2009 1:31 PM (GMT -7)   
Something you might consider is FMLA. If you work for a larger co. (more than 60 people?), you're probably covered. FMLA provides for 3 months off per year for medical reasons. I believe there is an option for intermittent leave. You would spread out the time off over the year. FMLA provides job protections too. I don't have any experience with the intermittent leave, but your HR rep could help.

It's tough when we just can't be productive for 40 hrs of work each week. If you run a deficit for too long, you'll probably crash (I did).

FMLA is a good place to start. Beyond that ... try to be realistic about your situation and what you can do.
Rich
 
Lyme, anxitey, depression, chronic C. Pnuemoniae
 
"... expect the unexpected ..."  (O. Wilde)
 
"I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened." (Mark Twain)
 
 


aimsgirl16
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   Posted 8/21/2009 2:41 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey Tammy! I have had to get my dr to fill out a FMLA and use it intermittently for time I need off or for my biweekly injections and things like that! I would deffinatly look into it! HOpe you can figure something out and I feel for you and understand....let us know wht you decide to do!!!

Amy

 

21 yrs old, Systemic Lupus , lupus nephritis , raynoids , Carpal Tunnel

Cytoxan, Prednisone, Lupron, Zofran, Mesna, Lisinopril,  Ambien, Flexeril, Ultram, Darvocet, Ferrious Sulfade, Calcium, Vitamin B12, Aspirin 81 mg, Vitamin C

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firebabe
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   Posted 8/22/2009 10:47 AM (GMT -7)   
I know I need to be brave here. I work at a smaller bank and honestly I don't know who handles are human resources. I know who I can ask though. I was actually to a doctor today because despite the fact that my rheumy and I thought I was going into a remission my body showed me alot differently yesterday and into last night. The doctor I saw gave me a note saying that I should leave work early if the pain persists, so I am covered for this next week anyways. I do see my rheumy in 2 weeks and I'm hoping things have maybe calmed down by then. Thanks for the hints though on FMLA. I will find out if my employer offers that.
~Tammy~
 "Challenges make you discover things about yourself you never really knew."
 SLE and Class II Lupus Nephritis


MJLD
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   Posted 8/22/2009 3:42 PM (GMT -7)   
Just wanted to wish you the best. I pray that this works out for you. I'm glad you don't have to stress about the money factor, but it is so hard to give up such an important part of your life that you love. I really struggled with losing my job, which was eventually taken out of my hands! You got some great advice. I hope you feel better soon! God bless You, Judy

firebabe
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   Posted 8/25/2009 8:50 AM (GMT -7)   
I talked with someone at work about cutting back. I explained to her the situation and she told me she would talk to my boss about it. (theres a couple of people who think they are human resources, but only like to do certain things-I went to my safe source who says we don't have a human resources person). Anyways, she's going to find out how many hours I still have to work to keep my full-time status and benefits, with my same job. My job is to come up with ways to cut back. Right now I work 3 days that are 8 1/2 hours one day that is 7 1/2 hours and one day that is 5 1/2 hours. Sometimes I work 4 hours on Sat. I'm not sure how to figure out when I'm going to be fatigued, but my best guess is that right away in the morning might be a good time to cut hours out. I feel like I'm the most sore in the morning, but sometimes fatigue hits me hard in the afternoon, especially at the end of the work week. It might even work better for me if I work 5 seven hour days in a row instead of working the longer days. Does anyone have any insight on what has worked for them?
~Tammy~
 "Challenges make you discover things about yourself you never really knew."
 SLE and Class II Lupus Nephritis


suetoo
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   Posted 8/29/2009 5:12 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi! Everyone,
I would like to add to everyone's good advice. I have learned the hard way: the decisions we make today living with lupus will directly and severely impact our level of wellness and function 10 and 20 years down our road. I am now, finally, looking into retirement and/or disability. With the birth of our first grandchild, and an unremitting workload at work, where fewer and fewer staff carry the ever growing workload.... I am finally looking at really how important is the job I truly love?, in comparison to living older and sicker if I con't to work the way I have been, and will I look back with regrets, at whatever wellness I could have  better protected, to have more of, in the future,  for the more important things, like being with my husband and children, I hate the way lupus has made me choose, forced me to decide between working, and money for neccesities, or an occasional family vacation,  my job or being around for my family, and my fear of being too sick to care for myself, or walk to the bathroom, or stand in the shower. Because, this past year... bathing and walking, on some days, have been almost impossible to do. I am a nurse/teacher, and over the past 5 years, I have cut my workload considerably, refused several full time jobs, agreed to work only a half time posiition, and resigned my perdiem position in a nursing home, and kept forcing myself to work because I wanted to. I take whammy doses of two blood pressure meds, and daily prednisone, the lowest dose I can live on and still function. My blood pressure is barely managed and I am finally looking at the what ifs, what if I have a stroke tonight, is my job worth the risk? What if my kidney function worsens tomorrow, will I regret I didn't stop working sooner? Yes, and once I figured that out, today, I see hope I will be less sick in the future, and able to spend time with my grandchild playing instead of watching her from the couch, and able to greet my husband with dinner cooked at the end of his terribly tough workday, instead of in bed in too much pain to even ask him how his day went. I am tired especially of living chronically ill with this disease, and am glad I you friends here to talk to, and share with.
sue

God knows, even if I don't....
CNS Lupus 2005, APS, Hashimoto's Thyroiditis
Meds: Plaquenil, Neurontin, Thyroid, Piroxicam, Aspirin, Atenolol and Norvasc, Prednisone 5mg daily and Paxil, Ambien every night.


gonuts
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   Posted 8/29/2009 10:40 AM (GMT -7)   
HI Sue, I am so glad you posted this. I too have been feeling so guilty of not working. My husband will probably have to work a second job once my unemployment runs out. I have applied for ssd but the waiting is so scarry.. I don't want to loose my husband because he is over worked. But i just can't do it anymore!! I too would come home from work so sick before i knew what was wrong and plop right on the bed so tired and flu like symptoms. I just thought i was being stressed out.. But now i know why.

You putting this post up really validates my decision wink Thank you for making me feel better about it. Your wonderful :-) Laura
Cervical spine surgery 2004, C-section 1986, Cholecystectomy 1999, Thoracic and Lumbar injury 2000. Anxiety/depression 2008. Fibromyalgia 2009, Thyroidectomy 2008. Degenerative disc disease. IBS. Asthma, Rheumitoid Arthritis, Sacroillitis, Scolylosis, disc bulge in L5/S1.possible ankylosing spondylitis. Meds: Lisinophil, xoponex, symbocort, pulmocort, troponal, vitamin 2000 D, Vitamin B complex, Hydrocodone, Tylonal Arthritis, Cymbalta.prednisone and Lyrica


suetoo
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   Posted 9/2/2009 5:55 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi! Laura,
I am so glad I helped in some way. In the past 4 days, our family has had to deal with a loss, and a funeral, and it all has made me certain that I need to take steps toward disability retirement. My promise to spouse and family has been to "manage" my workload, say "no" to extra tasks, yadayada. It didn't work. And I am sicker. And the "for better or for worse" clause in a marriage or partnership is there for a reason. Being able to share  on this forum is such a blessing. Please feel free to email if you'd like,
suetoo

God knows, even if I don't....
CNS Lupus 2005, APS, Hashimoto's Thyroiditis
Meds: Plaquenil, Neurontin, Thyroid, Piroxicam, Aspirin, Atenolol and Norvasc, Prednisone 5mg daily and Paxil, Ambien every night.


gonuts
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   Posted 9/2/2009 5:33 PM (GMT -7)   
ty so much sue for the invite, I may take you up on it.... God knows I've been a bit scared lately and it's good to know there's someone you can lean on. Especially everyone here. I don't know where i would be without this forum turn Take Care, Laura wink
Cervical spine surgery 2004, C-section 1986, Cholecystectomy 1999, Thoracic and Lumbar injury 2000. Anxiety/depression 2008. Fibromyalgia 2009, Thyroidectomy 2008. Degenerative disc disease. IBS. Asthma, Rheumitoid Arthritis, Sacroillitis, Scolylosis, disc bulge in L5/S1.possible ankylosing spondylitis. Meds: Lisinophil, xoponex, symbocort, pulmocort, troponal, vitamin 2000 D, Vitamin B complex, Hydrocodone, Tylonal Arthritis, Cymbalta.prednisone and Lyrica

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