Hi miss froggy, welcome to the group! You got some good advice from the others. Also I would wait until you see your rheummy before coming to any real conclusions. Lupus is extremely difficult to dx's and some of us here have been 20 years and 20 doctors and still don't have answers. Mostly they treat the symptoms. I'm not saying you do or don't have it just that you should try to keep your mind open to all possibilities. I have been DX'd with so many things and spent hours learning about them just to find out after months of learning that it wasn't what I have at all. There are so many differen A/I diseases out there. The good news is most of them are treated with the same things. You are right we all have either said its' in our head or had someone say it to us. Re: vitamins I am on a few different ones. Many of us are on B. Many take shots of vitamin B. Some of the diseases cause us not to be able to absorb vitamins the way we are supposed to. I take B plus pottasium, I also take citacal. The doctors will keep up on you blood work. Unfortunately there are side effects to some of the meds we have to take. Steroids can be a life saver but they can also just destroy your bones among other things. Just hang in there take one day at a time. and keep coming back here you will always find someone who knows what you are going through. Sounds like you have a good support team at home. You are very lucky.
Looking forward to getting to know you