I know lupus is rare in men and that finding a support system when you are a man with lupus is hard. Perhaps your wife needs to be taken along to a doctor's appointment and have lupus explained to her and have your doctor tell her naps are necessary. Maybe she needs to come on here and ask about lupus fatigue. If she doesn't get the hint you may be better off without the stress of worrying what her reaction to your need for a nap will be. Stress is our enemy and it sounds like she adds a lot of stress to your life.
Dx:fibromyalgia 2002, systematic lupus 2005- definate CNS involvement dxed late 2005, psoriasis 2006, rheumatoid arthritis 2006, PTSD 2007, multiple allergies 2005, migraine, compression fractures T11 & T12, Sjögren's, damaged periphrial nerves 2007, exema
Tx: plaquenil, Enbrel, Tramadol, Singulair, Skelaxin, Baby Asprin, Imuran, Prilosec, lasix, Evoxac, Celebrex, Vicodine when things get too bad, prednisone again, various vitamin/mineral supplements, cozar, duragesic patches
"Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dreams with open eyes, to make it possible." T. E. Lawrence