I had a kidney transplant in '06 and my dad was my donor. Everything's going good with me, my dad too. Funny but I think he was in more pain than I was after the surgery. I actually had a baby about a year ago. She was a preemie, but the docs don't think that the lupus had anything to do with it. I actually got better while I was pregnant but ended up with pregnancy induced hypertension and she had to come out 3 months early, but she's doing good now. Anyway, I personally don't think the transplant was that hard. The hospital I was at was wonderful. They had great transplant coordinators that educated us on everything, the docs were amazing and my dad and I were happy with the results. I think that the only complaint I really had was with the shunt that they had to put in the new urethera to keep it open, because the put in a new "connection between your bladder and the new kidney. If you have any other questions or just want to chat or whatever feel free to email me, my email address is on my profile.