You cannot help someone who will not admit to problems and want to help himself.
I am older and try very hard to take care of myself to give quality to my remaining years and not be a burden to my wife, children and grandchildren. Also want to enjoy my grandchildren for as long as I can. Today I spent the afternoon at our local pool with 2 of them and had a great time. Hard to do that if you don't take care of yourself. That is just a personal decision that each of us has to make....our time here is so short.
My father and both grandfathers were not that way and had lots of problems. Both my grandfathers died prematurely due to their excesses and while my father stopped his excesses and lived to 87 he did not have a happy life.
By the way, chocolate, particularly if it is pure and dark, is a "health food." Same with red wine. Just can't take too much of anything, even water.
Sorry about the humor but you ask serious questions that don't have easy answers.
Mixed connective tissue disease (systemic lupus, scleroderma, polymyositis), Raynauds phenomena, Hypertension, Barrett's esophagus.
Meds: prednisone (7mg & tapering), 100mg imuran, lisinopril 40mg, maxide 37.5/25mg, norvasc 5 mg, folic acid, potassium, aciphex 20mg, multi vitamins.
Maintain your optimism and you can beat the odds.
"Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it." Helen Keller