Thanks Barbara! You know, I just sat there this afternoon and worked. It took everything in me not to cry or let her see that she really had upset me. I can't tell if I am sad, angry, or just really really frustrated with the types of behavor by staff and this dead end job. Everything I am doing (including my personal life it seems since school is something personal, and has nothing to do with my work), seems to be all about how it is affecting "them" or what this all means in reference to "them". I live alone. I need this job to live...but it is not enough for me. The job is ok if you have another person with you that is also brining in some money. As it is now, I can't afford anything. I already have a univesity degree... and I am working in a job where I am not even using it! I need to get out of this rut I am in and better my life! How does all of this affect "them"? Who cares???
I finally let it all out in my car on the way home - I started to cry. I was so angry by then. When I got home, I just sat there in my living room going over the events of the day. I still can't believe it. How someone can be so arrogent that they think they can put me down in front of the whole office because of something that doesn't even pertain to them! It boggles the mind! I am trying to go to bed...but I can't stop fuming over this. If I don't watch it, I am going to have another flare.
The whole mess was over what took place in the last two days. I had to go to register for my courses for next semester, which begins after Christmas. I took my lunch break at 10 am instead of 11:30 am (one half hour) and went, registered, and was back with no time lost. My co-worker took some time off today to go to a scheduled hair appointment. She over heard a phone conversation I had, that there was a mix up in my courses that I paid for today, and that the head of the science department at the local college wanted to meet with me next Monday at 9 am. My co-worker then lost it! She said she had made another appointment for herself at that time and that I couldn't go anymore to anything because it was taking time away from her. I am replacing her at her job, so she can do another job that she is not qualified for. (so, why is it ok for her to leave work during her shift to do what ever she needs to do?It doesn't make sense!). I was on my lunch break!!! I didn't take any time away from anyone!
I think you are right. I am going to meet with our supervisor Monday and we will have a meeting - just the three of us. No way am I going to do like I always do... let her get away with this. When she saw that I was not my usual self after her outburst, she was totally changed... acting like she was my best friend. Cracking jokes, she even walked me to my car after our shift! I think she knows I am going to the boss...
Post Edited (Willow73) : 9/7/2007 7:08:18 PM (GMT-6)
Sorry you have to go through all that bs, willow. I dont have the same situation, but I have a co-worker who blatantly does not care about her job and sits there all day surfing the internet and doing personal phone calls, chit chatting with people in other deparments or just relaxing at her desk eating, while me and another co-worker do all the work. Its unbelievable and she does it even in front of our boss. And to boot, she is the first one to complain about other people!! The worst is we've told our supervisors about it time and time again, and it goes in one ear & out the other, they seem to pay no mind to it. So I kind of understand the stress of your situation. Even though this coworker of mine doesnt care, I have learned to speak my mind to her and I dont care anymore. Ive also spoke mind my mind to my boss a couple times when I know I was in the right. It just takes too much of out of you to keep it all bottled in to yourself and causes to much stress, which in turn, can aggravate your lupus, lower your immunity & make you sick easier, etc...You definitely should not have to put up with that, so if nothing else, then let you feelings be known to your rude coworkers. Once they realize you are not a pushover, they may back off.
You have gotten some great advice. I just wanted to say, I'm very proud of you for going for your dream! Like Frank said, stand tall and be strong!
I know it's hard when people act like your co-worker but, she is just jealous. Try not to let her get under your skin. Hang in there and take care. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.