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Deejavu
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   Posted 9/27/2009 6:36 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi all,
 
Most of you know that I lost my baby brother to melanoma skin cancer over 5 months ago..  He was 49 and I'm still trying to handle losing him,  I have good days and bad days.. 
 
Anyway my older brother and myself have never been close and 2 weeks ago he had open heart surgery (he needed 2 valves replaced) plus he is diabetic.  I felt bad for him as he hardly had any visitors and for the past 2 weeks I drove alone (on a crazy parkway - one of my phobia's) and visited him every single day..   I brought him home 2 days ago and he is going okay..  He is 60 years old and has alot of health problems... 
 
Funny, he was shocked that I came to visit him but darn, I lost one brother and I didn't want to lose my other brother...  So we became closer, something I thought would never happen.
 
So if I don't answer every e-mail (I'm doing my bestest), that's why..  I have a lot on my plate right now..
 
Denise


It's all about the Immune System mixed with a large dose of Positive Thinking and Daily Detoxing   ~  Pay It Forward!!
 
This song is about my years with chronic lyme since 1995 and being in remission for over 3 years:
 
 


CajunGrl
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   Posted 9/27/2009 6:42 PM (GMT -6)   
Denise,

I'm so sorry! You take care of your brother though. Try to do some deep breathing or something to destress so you don't overwhelm your system.

I bet he's so happy you're there for him. You are both in my thoughts and prayers.
**You never know how STRONG you are....until being STRONG is the ONLY choice you have**

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Post Edited (CajunGrl) : 9/28/2009 8:08:00 AM (GMT-6)


Deejavu
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   Posted 9/27/2009 6:52 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks CG,
 
It's just a relief to know he's home..  A nurse told me the night of his surgery that it was close and a very serious operation.
 
Anyway, he is staying with my mother who is a wreck and I keep telling her to take deep breathes!  LOL!
I'm helping my mother take care of my brother.. yeah, it's a real family affair!   yeah
 
Denise
It's all about the Immune System mixed with a large dose of Positive Thinking and Daily Detoxing   ~  Pay It Forward!!
 
This song is about my years with chronic lyme since 1995 and being in remission for over 3 years:
 
 


alone&scared
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   Posted 9/27/2009 7:01 PM (GMT -6)   
I agree with CG. Don't overstress yourself.
But, how wonderful that you have come closer! And better yet that he is alright! I bet it means the world to him that you were there with him and that you and your mother are now taking care of him!
I am so very sorry that you lost your little brother. That must have been so very hard. I cannot even imagine. You are such a strong person and don't even forget it!

Sorry for the overuse of exclamation points....one of my ocd's I think:)

nefferdun
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   Posted 9/28/2009 7:43 AM (GMT -6)   
I am sorry that you lost you younger brother too. I hope your family can grow and stay closer together. I am sure this is what your younger brother would want if he is watching over you. But remember to take care of yourself first. If your older brother has any serious character flaws that is the reason for your detachment from him, he will probably be the same person after he is well. But if you just didn't have much in common, same tastes etc, then you may find new ground to walk on with him.

CajunGrl
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   Posted 9/28/2009 8:19 AM (GMT -6)   
Boy oh boy! My spelling and thinking have gotten much worse. I meant to say "deep breathing". Instead, I said "deep breaths" lol. Spelling is a pet peeve of mine too. Oh well.
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Traveler
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   Posted 9/28/2009 11:26 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey CG!
Birds of feather do flock together, you know!! **giggle!!** Much of my brain function has already been flushed down the drain by those space aliens!!!

Hey Deejavu!
I am so very sorry about your loss, and the stresses of serious medical issues within your family. Although I DO have to say that I admire you for your strength & stamina!!

Also, I'm happy that a 'new' relationship with your older brother has been realized. I'm a firm believer that this life is about relationships!! (trying my best to stay off of the soap box!!!!!)

BUT - You MUST NOT forget to take extra good care of yourself!! Please!!

Sending many good vibes, healing thoughts & prayer to you & your family~
Trav
- Traveler
"Conditions": Lyme Disease, STARI, RMSF, Hashimoto's Thyroiditis, Neuro LD, FM, Chronic/acute EBV, IBS-C, Diverticulosis (& "itis") & now Lyme arthritis (?).


Deejavu
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   Posted 9/29/2009 6:38 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks Traveler!
 
Tomorrow my baby brother would have been 50 years old..  So tomorrow will be a sad day indeed.
 
I am okay and have to learn how to say "no" to my mother.. she wants me to take her to this special store today that sells fish..   Hello, I need to work and clean my house, do laundry and have alone time for myself..
 
To be honest, I am a loner..  family or no family... I think I do the things I do because I feel it's the right thing to do..  I'm the type of person who feels guilty if I don't do the right thing..
 
I have no idea what is going to develop between my older brother and myself (if anything), only time will tell..  It would be nice if we became closer since all my life he always ignored me..  but little by little we are finding out that we have lots in common that we both never knew..
 
But I still want to move to Vermont!   LOL!
 
Denise
It's all about the Immune System mixed with a large dose of Positive Thinking and Daily Detoxing   ~  Pay It Forward!!
 
This song is about my years with chronic lyme since 1995 and being in remission for over 3 years:
 
 


Traveler
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   Posted 9/29/2009 9:40 AM (GMT -6)   
Deejavu said...


I am okay and have to learn how to say "no" to my mother.. she wants me to take her to this special store today that sells fish.. Hello, I need to work and clean my house, do laundry and have alone time for myself..



To be honest, I am a loner.. family or no family... I think I do the things I do because I feel it's the right thing to do.. I'm the type of person who feels guilty if I don't do the right thing..

But I still want to move to Vermont! LOL!

Denise

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I understand what you mean about saying no - I still struggle with this. Hubby was disabled last Dec & is still recovering. He does a lot of stuff for me & I have trouble with not trying to cook (really cook - not something out of a box!! eyes) at least one decent meal for him!

Whenever we are at a family gathering (doesn't matter which side of the family), I have to keep 'disappearing' for a while. At that point I end up getting a lot of questions - ones I'm just plain tired of answering most days.

I am one of those people that must do the 'right' thing as well - no matter what other think! I have come to the realization that I have to be able to live with myself!! Unfortunately, there are a lot of times when others don't believe that I am doing the right thing! I am kind of a realist, and like to have things 'out in the open', or like I say - on the table for discussion.

But, why Vermont??? It gets really cold there!!!
- Traveler
"Conditions": Lyme Disease, STARI, RMSF, Hashimoto's Thyroiditis, Neuro LD, FM, Chronic/acute EBV, IBS-C, Diverticulosis (& "itis") & now Lyme arthritis (?).

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