You are in a rough place right now. This can be a really difficult disease without a terrific support system. In your family, it appears that YOU are that support system (mom/wives are so strong). It seems like your symptoms have stayed pretty mild. I hope they continue that way for a long long time. I am, along with the new neuro, amazed you were not started on a treatment years ago.
Unfortunately, there will be no way you can hide this from your husband. Even with good inurance support, the treatments can be very expensive. They are also quite obvious as they are all injections. That is not something you can hide! Most likely you will be keeping a box of pre-filled syringes in your refridgerator and injecting several times a week.
It is time to sit your husband down and have a very open talk with him. You will need to take him to a neurology appointment as well. He needs to understand the seriousness of this disease. What was his response to your blindness and hospitalization? Surely he understood that you were successfully treated and the doctors were not out to just make a buck?
Perhaps you could all attend an MS walk. Your scout-son could do this as a service project with his troop. The MS society and the MSAA are always looking for volunteers. You husband would have a chance to see people in all levels of disability in this disease. He would also see the level of support needed.
Obviously I am not going to tell you whether or not to "rock the boat" (well said, by the way). We have many on here that are on treatment, and we have many that are not. It is a real crap shoot as to what MS will do to you body.
Welcome to the board and I hope you stay and post often. This is an awesome place for support.
We are glad you are here!!! I am glad you are just hiding the pain part. Many of us do that .
One thing to remember; NO treatments STOP MS progression. If they work for you, they will slow down the progression as much as 40 percent. Tysabri is more like 65 percent but that one is only used if the usual Rebif, Avonex, Betaseron, or Copaxone don't work.
Good luck with scouting and the MS walk. Both of my sons are in scouts and have gained so much from it. We also walk each year; it is loads of fun. The MS society makes it like a real party!! It is uplifting, entertaining and usually there is lots of free stuff being giving away.