How do you deal with public places? and being "disabled"?

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tkelly3287
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   Posted 4/18/2007 3:45 PM (GMT -6)   
I don't have a handicapp thing for my car and usually I get around just fine. However this last weekend I took my daughter to the Aquarium and they had a line out the door and the heat in there got me to the point I felt like I was gonna faint. I also have been having some walking/standing issues. I did not want to let my girl down but I also needed some assistance or "special treatment". I really needed to sit or get through the line quicker or something and I was wondering how do I ask for this? I told one girl I was having problems standing but for some reason I have an issue saying I have MS. Most of the time people don't know what it is and they see me walking and can't figure out why I am complaining. Maybe some of you that have dealt with this longer can help. I just don't know how to approach these situations......

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   Posted 4/18/2007 9:59 PM (GMT 0)   
tkelly3287 said...
I don't have a handicapp thing for my car and usually I get around just fine. However this last weekend I took my daughter to the Aquarium and they had a line out the door and the heat in there got me to the point I felt like I was gonna faint. I also have been having some walking/standing issues. I did not want to let my girl down but I also needed some assistance or "special treatment". I really needed to sit or get through the line quicker or something and I was wondering how do I ask for this? I told one girl I was having problems standing but for some reason I have an issue saying I have MS. Most of the time people don't know what it is and they see me walking and can't figure out why I am complaining. Maybe some of you that have dealt with this longer can help. I just don't know how to approach these situations......
You calmly and quietly acknowledge that you have MS, and need assistance. What sort of assistance did you need there? Did they have wheelchairs or scooters for rent or use? You simply report to the desk, tell them what you need, and they're usually quite happy to accommodate.
 
You don't even need to say "I have MS". Just, "I cannot walk for long distances; do you have a wheelchair I can rent or borrow?"
 
You might want to get a handicap placard. With summer approaching y ou might find it quite useful.
...I am not a doctor, nor health professional, and don't pretend to be one, here.....


tkelly3287
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   Posted 4/18/2007 4:23 PM (GMT -6)   
Ya know I think I just needed to sit down or be expediated through the line that was literally an hour long. I think I need to get more assertive when it comes to this stuff...I just feel like I don't deserve "special treatment" know what I mean? How do I get a handicapp pthink for the car? My doc? I guess it would be nice to have when I need it. I guess I just feel like peopl ewill look at me weird when they see me, I don't look sick and I don't use any aids to walk....

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   Posted 4/18/2007 5:18 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Tkelly,
 
   Yes, be more assertive.  No point in making yourself miserable right?  Most places I've found are quite happy to assist if you ask for it, never have had a problem and no need to go into major details about why.  As for the placard, we just went to the license brance and got a form for the doctor to fill out.  Take it back and that's all there is too it.  Not sure about other states, but here in Indiana they are free.  Best of luck to you!
 
 
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   Posted 4/18/2007 5:55 PM (GMT -6)   
tkelly3287 said...
Ya know I think I just needed to sit down or be expediated through the line that was literally an hour long. I think I need to get more assertive when it comes to this stuff...I just feel like I don't deserve "special treatment" know what I mean? How do I get a handicapp pthink for the car? My doc? I guess it would be nice to have when I need it. I guess I just feel like peopl ewill look at me weird when they see me, I don't look sick and I don't use any aids to walk....
Go to the driver's licensing bureau and ask for the form for a handicap placard (depending on your state, you can either get a license plate or a placard. I like the placard as it can go with me and not be dependent on my having to take MY car.)  You fill in some of it, the doctor fills in some, you take it back to the licensing bureau.
 
Here in Wisconsin there is a small fee -- last time I think it was $8 for 3 years.  Which reminds me, I have to get mine renewed soon. Better start checking that out..
...I am not a doctor, nor health professional, and don't pretend to be one, here.....


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   Posted 4/19/2007 1:25 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi tkelly,
 
    The plates are good if you are in a situation where you would only ever use one car.  We prefer the placard too since you can use it in any vehicle.  I don't know how most people feel about this, but I get far more upset with people who park in the handicapped section illegally.  I figure if people have a placard or plate then there must be a reason for it.  Don't give it a second thought, if you need it then use it.  If you feel good and don't need it then you can do that too. 
 
 
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Motown John
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   Posted 4/19/2007 1:49 PM (GMT -6)   
Thursday p.m.
 
Kimber:  I totally agree.  If you have a cell phone, the police could write a $250.00 ticket for abusors.
 
John

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   Posted 4/19/2007 1:54 PM (GMT -6)   
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Hello TKelly:
 
I am assuming the aquarium is a city aquarium.  As such, city or government facilities usually have full handicap facilities.
 
Next time. call and check it out...I would suggest.
 
Where is the aquarium?  Did your daughter enjoy it?
 
John

tkelly3287
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   Posted 4/19/2007 3:26 PM (GMT -6)   
John- It was the Shedd Aquarium in Chicago. Ya know I actually don't think it is all that handicap accessible. I asked one girl (she was an employee) she said they had removed all benches (for people to sit on in the front where you get in line to get tickets) b/c it is too crowded with them. They had a second entrance for people with strollers and wheelchairs but it was closed for the day (we got there a little late) The line backs into the stairs (an old Chicago building with like a million stairs in front) So my hubby had to wait on the stairs and I had to stand in the building holding on to the baby. It just really was poorly set up, I'm sure if I caused a stink I would of at least got a place to sit but I was too shy. But at least my daughter LOVED it! Especially the punguins. She is almost 2 and really loves animals and FISH! oh my all the fish, Even though it sucked for me b/c at the end of the day I was really just worn out (I think I was also developing a flare up) It was worth it for how much she loved it, she is still carrying around thr brochure showing me the "fishies"!

Motown John
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   Posted 4/19/2007 5:34 PM (GMT -6)   
Thursday p.m.
 
Dear TKelly:
 
My wife and I went to the Shedd aqurium on our honeymoon 19 years ago.  It was great (I could have gone to a garbage dump, but since I was on my honeymoon...)
 
That aquarium is, as I remember, an old structure.  Certainly not modern, handicapped friendly architecture....
 
While, from what they tell me, a two year old is enough to tire out any healthy person...I'll bet she just ate it up.....
 
But please (listen to me) do not hesitate to call ahead of time for help.....
 
BECAUSE WE DESERVE IT-- RIGHT?!!!!
 
John

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   Posted 4/19/2007 5:37 PM (GMT -6)   
...TKelly...
 
Has your daughter seen the Penguin cartoon/movie yet?
 
John 

madlou
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   Posted 4/19/2007 7:11 PM (GMT -6)   
I don't hesitate to use the motorized carts...if they're available. And charged! I feel like I could become an advocate for the handicapped! I asked the doctor for the placard and he didn't hesitate. Took paperwork to the Secretary of State. No problem. And I don't always use the spot, like suggested I see how I feel. I used to think there were way too many handicapp parking spots. Boy, have I changed my mind on that one! I am seriously thinking about buying a cane, just for the times when I feel like I need the assist. But someone at the Center for Independent Living offered me one of those canes with the "claw" and something inside me just recoiled! That darn thing just screamed "Handicapped!" I guess I'm not ready for that. I'm also thinking that my next car will be a mini van. I'm ready to buy my own scooter so I don't have to depend on the ones provided. I don't think you're asking for special treatment, just asking for a need to be acknowledged.

tkelly3287
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   Posted 4/19/2007 7:52 PM (GMT -6)   
John- Yes a very OLD building! I bet you it has not changed much in the last 19 years. They added a new part the dolphin oceanarium and it is less then 9 years old and it has absolutely no handicap accesibility!! I really was shocked by how bad it was! Next time I will call ahead and ask. you are right WE do DESERVE it!!! She has seen happy feet and loved it. She is big into music and dancing and add penguins to the mix and you have one HAPPY 2 year old!!


Madlou- I am defnitely going to ask for the handicap placard I have always been fearful about asking but when I think about only using it when necessary I feel much better. Like if I am having a really bad day then I will use it but if not I will park regularly and get the exercise.

Thank you all much for your input!!
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