I am so sad for you. I am right there with you on this. I work in a big busy elementary school and the reactions and comments I get can be completely bizarre. I too am considering a counselor. I am so sick of this disease and the way people treat you and the way good friends change when you get diagnosed. It sucks. I can't really help you, I just thought you would want to hear that I am going through the same sort of thing. Keep me posted on your hunt for a good counselor and whether or not it is helping. Hang in there, girl. I am pulling for you.
Love and prayers,
I have to agree with Uppity here. It's true, I've found no one really at work wants to hear about our struggles unless they are a good friend, or it will impact them in some way. I have adopted the attitude of "if they don't ask, don't tell" unless of course they need to know, like my supervisor.
I work for a large company and have been gone for the last two weeks. I went back today and a couple people asked where I've been and I answer, but don't tell too much unless they prod.
1. it makes them uncomfortable
2. it makes me uncomfortable
3. it alienates them from wanting to chat with me later on
4. it makes me feel "special" when I am trying so hard to be my old self
5. it brings me down and reminds me I have a problem.. I work for an escape and don't want it to dampen my spirit more than it needs to
6. I don't want people to lose confidence in my work
I could go on, but I won't. If I'm having a rough day, I will call my fiance and tell him.. then I feel better and don't feel compelled to dump on others who don't understand anyway (I did this for quite a while and never got what I needed so it was fruitless for the above reasons). Having said that, it does feel really good when people ask and are genuinely interested and care. But for the most part, everyone is dealing with their own life struggles and just want to hear happy things, or gossip... at my workplace anyway. So I walk in with a smile and try to be the positive person that everyone wants to have around.
In my experience............ditto UppityCats. !!!! People do not care. And the ones that say they do, are hippocrites. They all mean well.......but nobody knows what this is like.....except those that have it.
Plain and simple.
It doesn't mean they don't have empathy or feel sorry for us, but they don't care much either. It is hard enough to get spouses and loved ones to TRY to understand, much less strangers that are scarred to death we could give them our problem.
It took me a year and half to get my boss to treat me like a human being, not a disease. I am not even trying with my co-workers.