When were you told that you were "pre-MS"? That's a classification I've not heard of, before. I suspect that, if you'd gone back regularly to the neuro, or asked for a second opinion, you'd be classified as "having MS" by now, given the fact that you have multiple lesions, and lots of symptoms that are indicative of MS, as well as relatives with MS! I'm not a betting woman, but I'm going to bet that your new neuro will wonder about that classification, too, and start you on proper treatment for MS.
Re-reading your post - -sounds like several years have gone by since that "pre-MS" diagnosis. Im also going to bet that you have many more lesions now, and they are of the "proper size" (whatever that is!) to confirm the diagnosis. You're a medical assistant, and so you know that MRI's can and do change over time, even brief periods of time, measured in months.
Yes, a cane can help tremendously with balance. It sounds like you're long overdue for one. Do go to a physical therapist though, for a session or two on "proper cane fit and useage". You'll get lots of tips about how to navigate stairs (both up and down!), ramps, other obstacles, and the best way to use the cane to support yourself. I don't know of websites for fancy canes, but I have a nifty blue aluminum one, now taking up space in the back of my closet (I use a wheelchair full time) so I know they're out there.
The muscle spasms you describe seem pretty typical, particularly "charlie horses" in the legs. I don't take meds for them, but there are some available. What you are using now may be sufficient, or you may need to increase the dosage some. Just be careful that you don't get your muscles TOO relaxed that your legs cannot support you well.
Good luck with your new neuro visit. Don't be surprised if the doctor orders a new MRI of your brain and maybe your spine, and repeats all the older tests before confirming the diagnosis, though. And presumably he'll talk with you about the drugs available to slow the course of the disease - -referred to around this board and other MS boards as the CRAB's -- Copaxone, Rebif, Avonex, and Betaseron.
Come back with any questions; folks here will try to help.
Welcome to the board. I was diagnosed with MS just over a year ago. I just wanted to say hi and offer my support. I also have the numbness in my feet. I got my cane at www.fashionablecanes.com
I like it a lot. You can have them cut it to fit you. They have some info about fitting but Uppitycats is right. You need to go have a physical therapist measure you and show you the proper way to use one.
I hope you enjoy this forum. I have found great friends and support here.
love and prayers,