I am new to this site. But i just had my ileostomy 3 weeks ago. The main problem that i am hearing from everyone is depression. I havent had that. Ive had my moments of crying because of my bag not fitting and buring my skin, but just make sure she keeps the bags fitting good, and she will not have a problem. The main thing for her to remember is, this surgery pain is only temporary, and she will feel wonderful when its all over and healed. She needs to have a positive outlook when going into this, she will heal faster. I was in the hospital only 7 days. my stoma started woking about the 4th day. everything went fine. The kids have been keeping up the house, and cooking. They are not good house keepers, but they are trying. Its hard to sit here and see thing undone, yes. But let her know that its only temporary. It will be ok. You will be supprised what 11-12 year olds can do around the house. It sounds like she has a wounderful support team. Just help keep her spirits up for faster healing.
thankyou all so much were six sisters all together so the house work is all in order, and picking the kids up from school is sorted, her husband even pays a lady to do the housework every week so she does the ironing if need be. i didn't know it could take up to 2 weeks i think i'll skip that bit out untill after the surgery, as when things unfold. her kids a wonder kids they keep the house tidy and are really considerate of her illness, i thank god for that as when my older sister went through the same illness and surgery she didnt have support, her kids were great but her husband didn't acre infact he gave her more misery, and she told me that she had to be on feet straight away bcoz she had no support, so the situation this time is alot better. i was really worried about the emotional side, my sister finds it hard to ask people to do things so we do it anyway, and she very rarely lets it show how much pain she is really in, it makes me cry when she actually talks to the surgeon as i went with her, she started to say how much she aws going through, the pain, the weakness etc... i didn't cry then but when i went home i was in tears i think you all are sooo brave and i realy pray that all goes well for those who have ahd the surgery and those are set to ahve it
Can I just say that I am so happy that you have taken it upon yourself to find this forum and ask the questions that you have to help your sister get thru this surgery and have a good recovery. Welcome to HealingWell.com Everyone has given you great information. You know your sister better than we do and you have taken such a huge step in contacting all of us. Your caring certainly shows. It sounds like you two are really close, and you are reaching out to better understand what she may go thru in the weeks to come. How nice it would be to have a sister like you... I just want to wish her and you the best of luck. Please keep us updated on her surgery and recovery.