Thanks everyone for your input. I know in the grand scheme of things, her health is most important but those stupid, little (and yes, somewhat vain) questions are in our minds. When my daughter is in remission, she is a powerhouse. UC is not the center of her life. She keeps a full schedule with school and extracurricular activities. She has always had a matter-of-fact attitude about her UC. She rarely has a problem if people know about it. In fact, most often she prefers to be open and honest about it. I think that if she were to have to have surgery, she would be the same way. She doesn't seem completely adverse to the prospect of surgery. She reads the posts on the UC forum (including the many posts about surgery). She wants to know as much about the surgery and recovery as possible now before she has to face it. As a family, we have taken her UC in stride. Like lp and Shaz said, we don't (and won't) treat her like an invalid. It is a shame she has UC but it is not who she is. My daughter has always tried to keep her UC in perspective. She decided to name her colon (she liked that Liz&Kenny named her colon and had surgery to remove Kenny!). Her colon is named Annie Moore (as in "is there any more poop coming?"). Having read that there are some on this forum who have named their stoma/bag (not exactly sure what), I am sure my daughter will come up with a name should she have surgery!
Thanks again for welcoming me and my questions. Bratcat (my daughter) very rarely posts under her own name but she does read the forums daily.