Sorry--meant to use my New name! (used to be Considering..) :)

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LittleE
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Date Joined Mar 2008
Total Posts : 137
   Posted 3/27/2008 6:10 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi everyone,

Well, I have finally decided to schedule a date for surgery--May 6th. I used to post under "ConsideringaBag," but I thought it best to change my name as that is no longer the case!!

This last year has been a hard one. My Crohn's just seems to creep up on me, slowly getting worse so that by the time that I am REALLY sick, I am so used to it that it is hard to realize what healthy even feels like...does that make sense?

I am a teacher, and I am so sick of running to the bathroom between classes and having horrible stomach pain while I am teaching. It takes all the energy I have to make it through a day lately, and my poor fiance!--whenever he wants to go out and do something fun I am always too pooped from work... :( I am so boring!!

He is supportive of the surgery, but of course I am afraid he won't be able to deal with it--even though he has told me over and over that he can. :) He is very sweet and good to me. I also do not want ANYONE to know, except my parents (I even considered not telling my own siblings that I am going to get a bag--just make them think it is a resection surgery or something. This is NOT because I feel ashamed of anything--it is because I could not stand it if people began treating me differently (I can see people kind of babying me, thinking I am delicate, or just feeling awkward).

I want to adjust before anyone else has any idea about it...am I just really weird??

I feel sad at time, but the main thing I feel is RELIEF that I finally scheduled a date so that getting this done is not hanging over my head any more...!

Anyway, I hope you all will be open to the many questions I KNOW I will have... :-) :-)

--Erin :)

tbraz
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Date Joined Jul 2007
Total Posts : 280
   Posted 3/27/2008 7:05 PM (GMT -6)   
LittleE,

Congrats on setting a date and I hope that all goes well for you after surgery. I think you'll be surprised at how well you will feel as soon as the colon is gone! Sure the surgery itself is painful, but the pain pump keeps it very tolerable and tell yourself that this pain will go away, not like the pain you are feeling now. Your energy will improve and you will probably get to eat more foods than you were able to before.

It sounds like your fiance will be supportive to you, just as I'm sure you would be there for him if the situation were reversed. My husband has been wonderful through all of this, his biggest fear was losing me when I was so sick so he always says he just want me healthy again. Try and let yourself believe him that he can handle it, just as you will handle it.

Don't worry about telling people what type of surgery you have had, all they need to know is that you are on your way to getting better.

I think that all emotions are completely normal from sadness to fear to relief, let them happen and get support from your parents and fiance when you need it. And most of all come here for questions and concerns and you will find another group of people that are willing to help in any way they can.

Theresa
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