I'm a 20 year old guy and I had my ileostomy surgery last year when I was 19 but I still kinda consider myself a teen, lol. It would have been a hard thing to go through at 13. I haven't had a girlfriend since the surgery and I feel the same way as you do about all that stuff but I have come to realise over the last year or so that if someone doesnt want to be with you just because you have an ileostomy then they are really not worth your time anyway. The right person is out there for you who will love you for you and not care that you have an ileostomy. I have thought about how I would tell someone alot lately and I think I would get to know them first and let them judge me for me not judge me for the fact that I have an ileostomy and if they like me for the person that I am then hopefuly it wont matter to them that I've got an ostomy and if it does then they are not the right person for me anyway.
Hope this makes sense.
Hey Blonde! I'm 19, had an ileostomy for nearly a year now. I had a bf at the time of my surgery and he didn't seem to mind, like was said earlier he was more glad I was alive! :) We're split now but I've had a non-serious bf since and he wasn't put off in the slightest. I wouldn't let worries about it drag you down, I think as long as you're comfortable in yourself and confident, no matter what's going on down there, other people won't care, and just see a happy girl who knows she's awesome :P :)
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