I am not young, but not that old either. Some of the really young posters are concerned about relationships after surgery. If your life depends on it or your quality of life depends on it, the surgery is worth it. The other comes with time and a good partner.
My husband has been very understanding about my fears and feelings. My tube top came in the mail last week!! I feel sooo much better when I wear it during intimate times. It is almost like the stoma is gone. So the point is, get on with life and get a tube top, too.
Where do you buy mini pouches? I use ConvaTec products and am not sure they sell mini pouches.
I just ordered myself 2 tube tops from tubetops.net! I can't wait to get them! Mini bags (at least the ones I have) are still too big for me to feel comfortable exposing them during those times (they are 9" long, I think), and I am afraid that the stoma caps they sent me would explode off possibly!
I ordered one skin-colored one and one pink one...I hope they fit (that's the one reason I prefer to shop not online)