Thank you everyone for your replies and support! We are going to go with the 2nd surgeon we saw. I have to call tomorrow to confirm the surgery date (July 3) and tell the 1st surgeon that we are not having him do the surgery. Hopefully this won't mess up our insurance too much because I am sure the 1st doctor has started the pre-surgery information. I spoke with a patient of the 2nd doctor. She was 16 when diagnosed with UC and 19 when she had the surgeries. She was pretty close in age to my daughter now. She sounded so positive and happy that it was a very calming phone call. I know my daughter may have complications but we are going into this with open eyes and positive outlooks. So here is my next question. The 1st surgery was to be at a childrens hospital because the doctor is a pediatric surgeon. My daughter would have been on an adolescent floor. The 2nd surgeon could put her on a regular surgical floor (adults) or a pediatric floor (he treats all ages but mostly adults). My daughter is much more comfortable around kids (even if they are younger). She isn't really comfortable around older, sick people (never been great with the nursing home visits). (What's going to happen when we are old and feeble? )So do you think there are positive and negatives to being on the pediatric floor? I know me staying on the ped. floor will be easier. I would think it has more "happy" atmosphere.
I booked surgery with the 2nd surgeon for July 3. Unfortunately it means waiting another 6 days but I think this is the right decision. I did request the pediatric floor. The office manager said it shouldn't be a problem. I contacted our insurance company to let them know we were switching surgeons so they could start a claim. I spoke with the 1st surgeon's office and explained that although we thought the world of the doctor (and would recommend him, we felt the other surgeon was better suited to Bratcat). The office manager there was wonderful and made me feel comfortable with our decision (I hate ruffling feathers).
Charlotte, even though Bratcat is currently healthy (or at least almost in remission) we are trying to plan surgery at the early part of the summer so she can recuperate before school starts. It would have been great to find a surgeon that would do it laproscopically but even though this isn't emergency surgery, we felt we were trying to beat the clock, so to speak. I am sure at some point I will be saying "Why did I allow this?" and have those would have, could have, should have talks with myself.
So my new concern is that the surgery is Thursday, July 3 and the doctor will be away Friday, Saturday, Sunday. He has 3 associates in his office (we have not met). But while we were in consultation with him, we saw the interaction between the doctors. Another doctor (not with the group) called from surgery needing help. Between the 4 doctors, a decision was made about who would go. It was very professional and took just a few minutes before one of the doctors was out the door to the hospital. For some reason, even though the surgeon will be away in the beginning, I feel comfortable. Could it be ignorance? Delusion? Intuition? Who knows.