definately hold the wafer and push your skin away. Soaps to use are non-residue (I use dial, but I think Ivory and Neutrogena also work). I also used to change my appliance in the am but found that that is the WORST time for me!!! Lots of mess(marshmellows do work great)...Another thing is depending on how many times a week you change, always do one on a weekend day. When I worked full-time I did a Wed/Sun schedule and even if I could have gone a day or two longer, I changed it because knowing I didn't have to go to work on the weekend change was easier. Be careful not to use a high setting on your hairdryer and I have found that I can even put my hand over the new appliance for a minute or so and that warms it up enough.
Before you know it her time will be up and she'll be having the reversal! Just remember we are here and no question is silly! I wish I knew all this at the beginning...
You are all so wonderful! It is nice to know others understand what she is going through. And have suggestions to boot!
Mary--I will order some Allkare. It sounds like it will help alot. She's been using paper towels. Luckily we buy the jumbo packages from BJs (just like toilet paper)! I am getting better at helping her because I had everything prepared (cut, pasted, etc) so when she finally was ready we were able to get it on.
Krista--glad your daughter is doing well. You said you use Eakin seals. I have read several people use them. Do you know who makes them? The paste has some alcohol in it and it burns when we put the wafer on. But my daughter definitely needs something.
Summer--she might try "helping" her stoma poop! It doesn't bother her that it does it except when she has just wiped everything down and it makes a mess again. I will check out the other thread you mentioned.
Ohio--the marshmallows do work. We are aiming for a once during the week, once on the weekend change too.
Praying--she also has just enough hair that you can't see but that makes it hurt more to remove. We also feel that if she changes it right before having to go out for the day she will spend more time worrying about any leaks than what she is supposed to do. Plus if it does leak during the night, she still has a chance to fix it before morning.
We are hoping to work out most of the kinks in the whole changing the wafer routine before school starts (beginning of September). All your suggestions sound wonderful.