cworyhill--don't get discouraged! I've been there, too...definately list the items you are using. That will help us figure out what might work better for you.
How long ago was your surgery? Was it in June? Is your incision healing?
When I had my new incision and stoma, I had to cover the incision with gauze and leave the portion of my wafer unattached, but I used an Eakin seal so that the area around the stoma stayed attached and I also used an ostomy belt which I wore tight to keep things from moving too much.