Hi again Mary, I know what you are saying, I too used to just dig a hole or go behind a treet etc but have you tried a portable potty?? They really are a life saver! AND clean and no smells either, they are no trouble to cart around with you and at least we can have a "almost" normal toilet with us, it's nearly like being at home as you still have the privacy and can "go" whenever the need takes you. It really is worth the try Mary, life is just too short to not join in as many activities as you can. Although mine in just over a year now apart from the number of BMs a day I sure as heck aren't going to let anything stop me from living my life as I want to, it's just too short as it is. As soon as I start feeling sorry for myself I think of so many people out there that have Cancer which is in-operable and they are just waiting to die.......that sure pulls me into gear and I feel grateful that mine was removed and I am well again.
What part of the world are you in Mary? It sounds like you have a wonderful husband, it is surprising how many husbands can't cope with this sort of thing. (I too have a real gem)
I would really love for you to just try a porta loo and see the difference, (you can even have it on the boat with you .
Cheers for now