Post Edited (Charlotte Gilman) : 12/10/2008 8:54:17 AM (GMT-7)
All the surgical choices for UC have pros and cons. There is no perfect surgery but there is a surgery that is perfect for you and it's the one you can stand behind (no pun intended!).
I think the stories you have heard about the jpouch are the worst of the worst. If those of us with jpouches had to live the way you describe I can promise you that none of us would keep the jpouch. As for me, I have never worn depends. Yes, I had some intial leaking but it resolved itself and it was minor. Yes, I go more frequently than those with colons but it doesn't get in the way of my activities, and I am active. If you were to opt for the jpouch, yes you would have to endure some more recovery and adaptation and it doesn't sound as if you're up to doing that. And like I said, if you can't get on board with your choice there is no sense in pursuing it.