Trust me, you want a reversal if you can have one. It is so freeing!! Yes, there may be complications but it is all worth it! This is only my opinion of course, I don't want to speak for everyone. I want to try to answer your questions though and see if I can help.
You only read bad things because you are scared, and truth be told you probably read good things too but you only remember the bad ones.
From the operation itself you can expect what you would normally expect, about 4 days in the hospital and pain upon waking up, etc. You'll really need to walk and drink LOTS, those are two of the most important things.
Every body is different so I'm not sure anyone can tell you how long to expect to be near the toilet, but for me I went about 15-20 times a day for the first month and then it drastically reduced down to 3-4 times a day.
To prepare for the operation just be as healthy as you can. I don't know your healthy situation now, but make sure you are strong and healthy. I would be walking everyday if I were you. The healthier you are going into it, the quicker and easier your recovery will be because of your strength. Also - think positive!
I had several things on hand for after the surgery - Depends, calmoseptine cream, flushable wipes, tucks, soft toilet paper (take all these items to the hospital with you) I know I'm forgetting some things and when I remember I'll tell you.
You won't be able to exercise right after the surgery, you'll probably just be able to walk which is what will be most important. You'll have to follow your doctor's advice where anything more than walking is concerned.
I hope I've helped you some. I can tell you this; from start to finish (TC to Reversal) I've had complication after complication and I would do it all over again. That's how happy I am. It is SO worth it!!
I'll be more than happy to answer any other questions you may have.
35 years old
Chronic Lifetime Constipation
Diagnosed IBS - 1995
Rectal Prolapse - February 2007
Rectosigmoid Colectomy w/low anterior Anastomosis - March 13, 2007
Diagnosed with Colonic Inertia - June 08
Total Colectomy - September 22, 2008
Temporary Ileostomy due to small bowell perforation Septepmber 29, 2008
Ileostomy Reversal - December 15, 2008
Multiple Small Bowel Abscesses-December 22, 2008
Leak at original Anastamosis -December 25, 2008
JP Drain removed - January 23, 2009
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