I don't think your emotions are abnormal; this is surgery and surgery is scary. It seems that you are getting relief by distracting yourself with chores which can help relieve some of the anxiety. I only had to wait two weeks from the decision to have surgery to the surgery itself. I didn't have your level of stress as I was very excited with the idea of being healthy again. Maybe you can use some visualization skills to help you cope? Try to picture your life 6 months from now. You're totally healthy and able to be a 100% partner in your marriage and in your child's life. Picture yourself being able to move freely through your community without needing to know where all the bathrooms are. Try imagining the positive changes and freedom this surgery will give you.
And of course, you can always cancel the surgery if you feel that you just can't commit to it at this time.
Post Edited (Chasblah) : 2/1/2009 8:46:42 PM (GMT-7)
Robin, the wait is absolutely dreadful. The last few days before my daughter's surgery she got very quiet. The morning of her surgery we had to leave the house around 4:30 am. I decided to take pictures of her then (and throughout her recovery). As much as she wanted the surgery, she stood in the house and said she wasn't going. Six months later she is so happy for the surgery. I watch her enjoying life and know it was the right decision. As everyone has already said, picture all the things you will be doing in the near future. Just remember to give yourself time to heal. Physically and emotionally.
When my kids were little and my mom was still alive, she would stop by and say she needed a "grandchild fix". If she was down about something or just a little lonely, she would grab the nearest grandchild and hug away. Grab your son and squeeze away.
If you decide to start cleaning someone else's house, pick mine! Please!
Oh yeah? Well I'm SCOOL!!!!!
Well, I'm CONFUSED b/c we all look so silly and our names make no since at all!!!
We may look like twins but I'm and I'm SMILE.
I SO have too much time on my hands right now. UC.
UC is the !!!
I KNOW!!! I'll just get rid of it!!! This Friday sounds good...a proctocolectomy should do the trick! With a permanent ileo on the side...my right side please.
wanted to wish you the best--- quickest recovery ever....I think you are very brave... I am going to meet a surgeon tomorrow and terrified about the REAL possiblity of surgery.
Will be thinking about you Friday :))