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Hello, welcome to healingwell also.
I do hope you get help with the biofeedback also. I understand how frustrated you must feel, but dont let anyone tell you there is nothing wrong with you - i have experienced the same for the last 10 years - just keep pushing for answers.
At the end of the day you have to try everything possible to help yourself. A bag is a last resort really if all else fails. I have a temporary bag so my internal join can heal. its just been nearly 3 weeks since surgery so i am still recovering, but the thing is it is great not going to the loo and all the associated pain and cramps and stuff. But for you it would be a last resort to get your life back. There are loads on here (summerstorm to name one), who have them for life - and it appears they all get on doing everything they ever wanted!
Good luck my dear. x