Everything you are feeling is normal for what you are going through right now. It's fine not to want to see anyone at the hospital except your wife. As much as most people mean well, visiting usually means that the patient has to be the host, so to speak. Make sure your wife understands your request (as I suspect she does already).
As for "pushing it all on" your wife as your MIL says, that's part of marriage. To love unconditionally, to support when needed, to lean on when needed. Focus on that wonderful marriage you have. Your MIL's husband probably never complains about pain because she wouldn't support him if he did!
Any chance you can get your MIL out of the picture for awhile? She is definitely adding to the stress.
Just know we are all sending you hugs, strength, and good wishes. And keep venting here. It will help release some of the tension.
I don't know exactly what to say to make you feel more at ease over your upcoming surgery. Yes, it will hurt. Surgeries just do. But in this case, no pain - no gain. Once you get thru post-op and recovery at home, you should be rid of that awful, debilitating pain that you have with your disease. Just keep in mind that once you heal, you are healed!! You should just start looking forward to doing the things that you haven't been able to do with active disease.
I too think it is a good idea NOT to have a bunch of visitors at the hospital. You will need your rest, and believe me, it is hard enough getting rest as it is with the nurses checking vitals at all hours, and doctors coming in at the crack of dawn.
One bad experience with MRSA would scare the bejesus out of me as well. But we will be right here on this forum to get you thru all of your pre and post operation emotions. Just keep talking with us....
You need to avoid your MIL for a little while. The things she says to you are so insensitive, and you don't need to listen to her mindless babble now or after surgery. Please make sure your wife tells her that there are NO VISITORS ALLOWED in the hospital.
Everything is going to be fine with your surgery. You have to believe that and go into it with a positive mindset. Good luck with your prep tomorrow. Just think, it's the last time you're ever going to have to do that!
We're all thinking about you, I'm praying for you, and we'll be here for you when you get home from the hospital and can post on here again. The good news is, you will soon be disease-free!! Woo Hoo!
up and taking a shower for the ride to the hospital...I am freaked but the docs emails say I will sail through this...thank you all and see you on the other side.
Post Edited (PSA.Delhi) : 4/17/2009 5:30:21 AM (GMT-6)
I'm thinking about you and praying that everything has gone well so far!