I am a 28 year old guy and had my colon removed just under 2 months ago. I had UC so cant comment too much on your issues however I can comment on the surgery.
Knowing what I was going to have done to me took a lot of the stress about being in hospital away. Someone once said to me living with the stress of never knowing when I was going to have another flare up and always being ill, tired, and on lots of meds; versus just handling life with a stoma and bag is something now I am on the other side i completely agree with. My brain is starting to understand i dont need to worry about being ill anymore.
Think for a few mintues which you would rather cope with. Its different for everyone and I completely understand how big this decision is to make. I am looking forward to this summer when i can cut my lawn, and bend and twist without worrying about making myself bleed. I even had my first beer in years last night with my dinner!!
The surgery itself is not too bad at all, and the pain is managed after very well.
The bags are very slim and I am wearing slim fitting sports clothes and my normal jeans/T-shirts and you cant see a thing. HONEST!
A phrase you will probably hear a lot is "everyone is different", and its true - but for me I am starting to appreciate my new life now.
All the best,
UC since 17
Azathioprine, prednisolone, Asacol,
blood transfusions, iron infusions
Colon Removed 18 March 1:30pm!
Option for Jpouch but have not made my mind up yet!