Bob, ((hugs))! I'm sure in her own crazy way, your MIL thinks she is being helpful. In reality, she is hindering your emotional healing (which is a big part of major surgery). You mentioned that she said you shouldn't go back to church or see people. I say look to your church and friends to find some support! If possible, see if they can help set up some visitation to you if you can't get to them. I know many churches will do this with the homebound. Or maybe you and your wife can get out to see a friend or two even if it is for an hour. Any real friend will understand you are still recovering from major surgery.I think for your sanity you need to see other people. Your MIL is poisoning your mind. You are a wonderful man with a terrific wife. You have a great future ahead of you. Find other alternatives to having someone help you if necessary (be creative if you have to) but send your MIL home ASAP. I agree that you need to tell your wife. She has supported you and sided with you all along. I am sure she loves her mother (I guess I hope she does) but she chooses to be in love with you and chooses to be with you!
Feel better (both physically and emotionally) soon. Like many have said, I wish I lived closer. I would take a turn helping you out. You are very special. Remember that!
Post Edited (Marsky) : 5/19/2009 5:27:04 AM (GMT-6)