Oh I would never try to hurt my wife by recording her mother - that would be so unethical and mean. I don't think I could do that even though you are probably the sensible one - I think it would kill hermy MIL= If she knew or found out I had recorded her/
I guess I am just a wuss.
Hi Bob, first of all I am glad to hear surgery went as well as expected and that you are on the mend!You must bring your minister friend in again on this situation. He did offer after all. I think it is a good idea to tell your wife. As I said in a past post, I know from everything you wrote over the past several years that I have been on HW that you and your wife have a relationship that most people only dream about. It's a shame your MIL is trying so hard to come between you because your wife is the one who can give you the most emotional support right now. Don't doubt the strength of the love you and your wife have. Don't let your MIL poison it.
Oh Bob, you are not a burden to your wife; your wife loves you. The problem is your mother-in-law's. She is projecting HER feelings onto your wife in hopes that you will believe her and leave her daughter. Your MIL feels that you aren't good enough for her daughter and wants you out of the family. Your MIL is SICK, really really sick. I am not married so don't have words to advise but maybe you can get your MIL and your minister in the same room and let her know, in front of your minister, that you are going to share all these terrible things she has said, to your wife, if she does not stop disrespecting you. She must stop saying or inferring that you smell, she must stop saying you are a burden on your wife, and she must start treating you as she has NEVER treated you before. I think having this talk with the minister present, as a witness in the name of God and in body, will shock her straight. I am so sad for your situation.
Post Edited (vette guy) : 7/9/2009 10:57:16 PM (GMT-6)