This will be my last thread.....I'm no longer necessary...good bye!

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vette guy
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   Posted 11/10/2009 2:53 AM (GMT -6)   
Sorry matie, but I can't allow this post to stay here under the rules.

Please do go and get help. Many others have been through what you've been through and lived to tell the tale.

We need you here.

Shaz

Post Edited By Moderator (Shaz032) : 11/10/2009 4:36:17 AM (GMT-7)


flchurchlady
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   Posted 11/10/2009 3:20 AM (GMT -6)   
Please don't do this, Mike!

flchurchlady
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   Posted 11/10/2009 3:23 AM (GMT -6)   
You are loved and needed by your family and friends!

Trigirl
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   Posted 11/10/2009 4:34 AM (GMT -6)   
I hope this is a joke. You have encouraged and inspired me many times. There's always new changes in life and since I got layed off new opportunities come. Don't just give up!
This heights by great men reached and kept, were not obtained by sudden flight, but they while their companions slept, were toiling upward in the night.
H.W. Longfellow
Thyroid cancer removed 1988
Stomach problems finally figured out 2001 Crohn's/Colitus
Tried every drug without much success
Colon/rectal cancer removed Aug 2009
Trying


vette guy
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   Posted 11/10/2009 6:29 AM (GMT -6)   
Mike, if you know you've been a big help to others (and you definitely have), then think about all those who will be missing out on your words of wisdom - you can help so many! Not to mention what it's going to do to your wife and son - they're the ones who will suffer, not you! Please stop and think about this.

Post Edited By Moderator (Shaz032) : 11/10/2009 5:44:18 AM (GMT-7)


flchurchlady
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   Posted 11/10/2009 6:31 AM (GMT -6)   
No, Mike, please don't do this! You have so much to live for! There are other jobs, but only one you!
Dx'd Crohn's in '99 at age 28. Proctocolectomy and ileostomy in '06.
Disease-free and medicine-free since surgery and very thankful to be healthy again.


flchurchlady
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   Posted 11/10/2009 6:34 AM (GMT -6)   
Your wife and son love you so much and want you in their lives. Please think about how much this is going to devastate them, and don't do this!
Dx'd Crohn's in '99 at age 28. Proctocolectomy and ileostomy in '06.
Disease-free and medicine-free since surgery and very thankful to be healthy again.


flchurchlady
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   Posted 11/10/2009 6:40 AM (GMT -6)   
Mike,
I've been praying for you all morning and will continue to pray that God will open your eyes to see how wrong this is! Please call your wife and tell her to come home right now! You are loved and appreciated for who you are not what you do! Call your wife, please.
Cecilia

flchurchlady
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   Posted 11/10/2009 6:44 AM (GMT -6)   
Please don't do this, Mike. Call your wife. Don't you want to see her and your son again?

flchurchlady
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   Posted 11/10/2009 6:51 AM (GMT -6)   
Mike,
Please call 1-800-273-TALK (8255), it's a suicide prevention number.

MMMNAVY
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   Posted 11/10/2009 8:03 AM (GMT -6)   
Mike,
You have walking and talking reasons to live. So do not give me that darn crap about how this will help your family. Believe me you are worth much more alive then you are dead. Have you ever read what happen to those crash of '29 widows? Their families are still financially recovering, but yet those guys who did stick around and worked even the most menial of jobs helped make their families more safe and more successful. I mean successful in more then just fiscal ways, far more important is their emotional strenght, because sucide does leave an emotional scar that lasts for generations.
So what if you have to sell some stuff, a smaller home is cozy and actually has been shown to promote more family connectiveness and better relationships. How does this help your family? Who is going to catch your wife when she falls?
Please get some help here. You are so worth keeping alive.
Hugs,
Navy
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peggy113
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   Posted 11/10/2009 8:41 AM (GMT -6)   
HEY VG... it's been a while since I have posted. But happened to check the forum today..... what the hell are you thinking? NOOOOOOO, this is not a way out for you, your family, your wife, child... please talk to us or to someone. I beg of you. You are so valued. You cannot do this. We DO CARE.
Peggy
      
Diagnosed with CD in 1979, many resections and meds
Perm Ileostomy July 1984 at Cleveland Clinic
Disease free since surgery 
   Happy SILVER Anniversary to me!


2b ColonFree
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   Posted 11/10/2009 1:21 PM (GMT -6)   
vette guy!
i don't have an ostomy, but sometimes i would go into ya'll threads and read some. you've always been so encouraging to everyone and many times you made me really laugh with your amuzing comments, you always had such a great atittude and an insparations to so many of us! DON'T DO IT!! NOTHING is worth doing such a thing! with all the difficulties in life and sometimes even sadness.. you gotta find the good sides in it and just keep going. when things get so tough at times, i just find my self LAUGHING at everything.... lol.. what else is better or left to do????? you listen to me!!! life is too precious to throw away like this!!!! even though i'm a complete strager to you and we've never talked on here, i did read some of your amuzing posts and i think you're truly a special guy and have SO much to offer to everyone around you!! are you here????? are you seeing all of our posts?????

Hodaya

06/05/2007 - STARR procedure

colonic inertia w/pelvic floor dysfunction

08/16/2009 - total colectomy w/ileorectal anastomosis


summerstorm
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   Posted 11/10/2009 2:13 PM (GMT -6)   
I really hope you are still around to read these.  
And you have been very helpful to many around here, me included, i can remember lots of advice you gave me.  Now please listen to everyone else's advice.
 
My family has been devesated by suicide numerous times, and NONE of us are any better for it.
My mothers father shot himself when she was 6, my mother found him, as a result, her mother had to work extra hard to provide and when she died when my mother was only 16, my  mother and her brother and sister were left with NO parents, and i with no grandfather or grandmother, and my child with no greatgrandparents.  Please tell me, how did he killing himself help his family?
My great uncle shot himself.  My cousin found him, she was 17, her brother, at 15, scubbed the blood off the swing where he shot himself, so that his mother and grandmother didnt have to do it.  His life insurance didnt pay since it was suicide.  So my aunt is now close to broke, because she still had to pay his medical bills and all their other bills.  And has had to do it alone.  They are no better.
I can go on and on, my ohter uncle shot himself, his son found him, his life insurance didnt pay either.  And i went to  the funeral and watched his little grandson stand at the front, crying, but not sure why,.
My best friends brother shot himself, his mother found him, she is now crazy, like actually crazy.  Every year at the time of his death, they have to watch her 24/7 so that she doesnt kill herself.
 
Now please, tell me how are any of these people better off without their family? what did any of that accomplish?  When someone commits suicide, they dont just end their life, they destroy the people around them also.
 
Hopefully, anyone reading this will take something away from this thread, and realize that yeah life is hard, but suicide is the selfish way out, the cowardly way out.  Its so much braver to face your struggles and not give in.
 
 
UC for 8 years, before finally kicking its butt and having a permanent ileostomy April 17 2007! 
-I have gone to find myself, if i get back before i return, keep me here-


Equestrian Mom
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   Posted 11/10/2009 5:19 PM (GMT -6)   
Mike~I've just signed on...I am truly saddened by what I am reading. I cannot read your original post, but I am imagining what it said.

YOU are IMPORTANT. So many people have found hope and courage from your knowledge and life lessons. I hope you are reading this post and know how much we care about YOU.

Fondly,
Anne

nene205
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   Posted 11/10/2009 10:33 PM (GMT -6)   
I just checked into the forum late tonight, like I am prone to do, and I am reading some scary stuff. Even though your original post has been deleted, I can figure out that you are really, really down.

You have been on this ostomy road a long time and your encouragement has been so beneficial to others and me. I have always thought that you were right on target about so many things. Please get some help.

These are trying days, but somehow you can make it. Think of your family and friends.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Jennie

esoR
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   Posted 11/11/2009 12:47 AM (GMT -6)   
Vette Guy,
I'm guessing you said you were going to do away with yourself because you lost a job????? Your post was deleted by the time I logged on. You can get another job doing something else. Jobs, careers, I almost lost my life having a surgery I was told I needed in order to get back to my job (big deal career) full time. The symptoms of my issue were making me late for work in the a.m. and the place I worked wanted me back full time and on time. I had this surgery. I almost died from it. I was disabled for so long work "retired" me. I was severely damaged. Turned out my diagnosis was incorrect (unknown to me at the time..) I had to get a stoma to survive. The job and career are history. My body had to be seriously altered so I could live. I fought for 13 months to get a doc to do what had to be done so I could live. Doc's don't like to "repair" eachother's mistakes. I fought so hard, I can't stand to think of someone throwing themselves away. All that really matters are the people in your life; you matter to them; they matter to you. Trust me there is nothing else. Jobs are something we do to make money. I know it's tough times, but what you do for work does not define who you are. I hope I interpreted your original message correctly and am replying appropriately. BUt this, right now is all we got, come on. Log on and read. Then DON'T DO IT!
Rosemary

Trigirl
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   Posted 11/11/2009 1:07 AM (GMT -6)   
So I was up at 3:00 am just after Mike wrote the post that is now deleted. I stayed awake half the night wondering what I could do. Couldn't figure anything out. Have been worrying all day. Heard anything?
This heights by great men reached and kept, were not obtained by sudden flight, but they while their companions slept, were toiling upward in the night.
H.W. Longfellow
Thyroid cancer removed 1988
Stomach problems finally figured out 2001 Crohn's/Colitus
Tried every drug without much success
Colon/rectal cancer removed Aug 2009
Trying


flchurchlady
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   Posted 11/11/2009 4:59 AM (GMT -6)   
I was on here at the same time yesterday morning when he was writing that he was recently laid off from his job and was going to end his life. I was posting as fast as I could to try to reach out to him, but did not get a response other than he was going to "carry out his plan." I contacted Shaz, who contacted a UOAA member in his city, but unfortunately, nobody knows his last name, so we can't find him to get in touch with him. He has not logged on here since his last post yesterday at 8:53 a.m. EST, so it's very possible that he took his life. I'm still praying that he did not.

Cecilia

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   Posted 11/11/2009 5:39 AM (GMT -6)   
I am here worrying, too. Mike, you are in our prayers!

Shaz032
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   Posted 11/11/2009 5:57 AM (GMT -6)   
I contacted Kristin, who's the pres of UOAA and she said she knows of him cos he sometimes posts at UOAA but doesn't actually know him so she couldn't help either. LeeAnn was the same (and she knows most people lol) :( I also emailed Bobbie, the pres of the Atlanta UOAA but haven't heard back from her :(
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Marsky
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   Posted 11/11/2009 6:14 AM (GMT -6)   
Mike - I usually post on the IBS forum but have posted a few times over here. Had a temporary ostomy years ago. I have noticed from just my infrequent visits to this forum what a true God-send you are to everyone here, mods, regular posters, newbies who are besides themselves with how to care for an ostomy. You really are that member many if not all lean on and trust 100%. This I have picked up on. And the caring you've put forth comes back at you, I can feel it. Everyone here sincerely cares for your well being. Please, oh please I hope you've changed your mind and will post soon.

Mods - I wonder if someone could legally gather our real names, locations and phone numbers, in desperate times of need such as this one?

I know I would not mind giving out this info, not publicly on the forum but in an email to the right person, for safe keeping. Just a thought.

Mike - praying for you. Big time. Like many, I couldn't sleep well either. You have us all so worried.

Mary/Marsky
- Rectal Cancer 4/29/99, Stage I, no treatment necessary
(5 hour colon resection: 90% sigmoid removed, 15 inches of colon removed, gall bladder removed, temporary colostomy, reversed 8 weeks later)
- Chronic IBS/D symptoms, multiple bm's, on low residue diet
- Takes Colace 50 mg each evening


summerstorm
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   Posted 11/11/2009 10:33 AM (GMT -6)   
The admins should have access to info, like last names at least. And if nothing, else alot of people can be found by searching the ISP number. Thats just something to think of if its ever needed again.
UC for 8 years, before finally kicking its butt and having a permanent ileostomy April 17 2007! 
-I have gone to find myself, if i get back before i return, keep me here-


flchurchlady
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   Posted 11/11/2009 10:52 AM (GMT -6)   
Mike,
I'm so happy to see that you're online right now! We love you very much and are all concerned about you. Please let us know that you're okay and that you were just having a very bad day yesterday.
Cecilia

2b ColonFree
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   Posted 11/11/2009 11:00 AM (GMT -6)   
Cecilia, i'm so glad you managed to notice that.... i was very relieved to read this!

Mike, we're all thiniking of you and worried about you!

Hodaya

06/05/2007 - STARR procedure

colonic inertia w/pelvic floor dysfunction

08/16/2009 - total colectomy w/ileorectal anastomosis

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