same thing happened to me...
i was enjoying life, at 23, going to the gym etc etc and then after a bout of food poisoning, my life was turned upside down. i lost nearly 3 stones in a year, couldnt go out, split up with the other half, moved back home and never went out.
my doc said not to give up hope and there were more pills to try, so off i went 'again' to the chemist for another bag of pills, jeans too big for me, and what were once tight fit, good looking t-shirts, now just hanging off me.
then 1 nite, i had very bad stomach pains, and i knew something was wrong...went to my GP and was taken to hospital, had scans and x-rays and finally at 10pm surgeons came rushing onto my ward to say that my bowel had split/perforated and i was in trouble!!!!?!?!?
to cut a long story short, i had an op and woke up with a stoma bag, but too be honest i knew that was coming as no medication worked for me.
i am now a completely different person, take no medication wotsoeva and go out as i should. i cover the bag up when i go out and just say its to protect my scar and i feel normal.
but i know what you mean, when you say it gets to you mentally, but just think how quick the next 6mths will go?! i had my op in sept and its basically jan now, so thats4 mths gone already, so im nearly there.
hang in there, any q's just email me...
I just wanted to let you know I feel your pain! I was a restaurant mgr for 10 yrs before I started to realize I was sick.I am always in denial when I am sick, so it took a while.Anyway, I had uc for @ 8 yrs before my first bag. I had a temp colostomy put in for 3 months, and I thought my life was over. I was and am still married, I could'nt imagine being single. Anyway, I had a reversal, and all was well for @ 6 months, then I started to lose weight again and all the other stuff that landed me in the hospital, being told I had to get a permanent illeostomy. Yes I had emergency surgery to remove my whole large intestine and all connected to it. So needless to say I know the feeling of having a bag....I know there are so many positive sides to all of this, but I don't think we are the ones to really feel that yet. I am glad and all, but it sucks too. One thing that helps me more that anything, is these sites available for us to vent, to talk and to just listen to people just like us!!!!
I thank you for posting this and listening to me, if there are any questions or ant thing I can help with just let me know!
Your story reminded me alot about my own...
I know what you are going through, literally. The same thing pretty much happened to me. I was always in the gym working out and since the surgery I've lost about thirty pounds all together and now I've gained back about ten. I'm going through all the same emotional feelings as you are and trying to deal with getting back to normal with my wife. I'm trying real hard to keep the faith and rely on Jesus to help me deal with everything. I still have along road ahead of me, in six months I have the option to have another surgery to get re-hooked back up hopefully if everything goes well I can get back some normalcy. I know you just got out of sugery and things seem really negative right now but i've been there and can tell you I been out of surg for about six weeks and it does get better. I feel stronger and feel like I could go out and throw a football around with my boys. I feel the urge to start working out again and I am SLOWLY with 10 lb dumdbels because I still have alot of stomach pains. By the way if I didn't mention before I'm 27 yrs old and a guy. I feel like this is all a trial and it will make me into a stronger person in the long run. I have a great support group in my family and friends and couldn't get through all this without them. Hope you get better soon and hope to hear from ya.