I had an ilestomy performed on January 23 of this year after many years of crohn's disease. I find the ostomy a "no-brainer". I have had my share of accidents but all seem to be for a reason that I can fix. My only regret and it is getting to me, is that I wish I never told some of the people that I did tell about the surgery. I remember my husband saying that his family should know because they will figure it out eventually anyway. But now that I have been living with this, no one would ever know unless you told them. I am felling very exposed.I even have a couple of close friends that I wish didn't know about this. Yes, they would know about the surgery but I could say I just had a resection. Of course, the people I told had to tell their significant other or mother or whatever......I could kick myself. Any thoughts!?
Artist, Why are you upset over this. Are they no longer speaking to you? Are they teasing you or something like that? Believe me, things could be alot worse, so don't get down on yourself for letting people know. There is nothing to be ashamed of. I am a police officer, and you want to talk about a group that can really ride you hard? Wow. These folks can. But let me tell you. I was up front and honest with anyone that asked me what had happened, and I have been shocked at how kind and understanding the folks I have talked with have been. In fact, I have found out that there are alot of people on the department that have the same U/C or Irritable Bowel symptoms and alot of them didn't understand what was going on. Many are now seeking treatment.
I guess what I am trying to say is that I doubt seriously that you sent in a special request for anything that has happened to you to happen to you. This is just a part of life and there's not alot we can do about it. It is times like this that you find out who your "TRUE FRIENDS" and "SUPPORTIVE FAMILY" are. Trust me. My eyes were opened wide. Folks I thought were my true friends won't even talk to me or are embarrased by me. Personally, I've moved past that, and you will too. Hang in there. Like I recently said. God never gives you more than you can handle, but he's recently spent a little more time on me. Ha ha.
God Bless. Phil
Ok, I see where you are coming from. I can agree with that, in which I don't go out and publish the fact, but if someone asks then I'm not ashamed to talk to them about it. I can understand your regrets in telling some folks, but realize also that it is done and you have to move past that. As long as you are not feeling any guilt, that is what is important.
Take Care. Phil