Surgery was the best health decision I have ever made. I am almost 6 years out from a 2-step j-pouch. The temporary ileostomy (believe me, I dreaded the thought) wasn't so bad as I felt so well for the first time in several years. It allowed me to go out in public without the fear of losing control of my bowels. Recovery and adaption to the new plumbing can take a year but as Smiles said, have a positive attitude and be patient with the process.
Thank you for the replies. I thought it would be worth the surgery but, I am just dreading the recovery. I have a low pain tolerance and the bag issue. I hope they give me pain killers like you received. How often do you know have bowel movements? Do you have urgency? How about frequency? This really helps to get information from people who have been through it.