I can give you a very VERY new bagster's opinion...
I had my surgery one month ago today. In that month, I've gone through MANY emotions. HOWEVER, even though I know I still have a lot of adjustong to do, I am happy with my decision. Already I can eat what I want, and not pay for it with pain. That is my #1 new experience. Also, I am not on meds anymore! No more side effects, and my emotions are my own, and not some weird drug reaction.
The bag itself? Well, I'm not used to it yet, but in just 4 weeks, I can already empty it in just about 1 minute, and I can change the whole darn thing in just a few. I still have learning to do, like I said, but it isn't the end of the world. It's just a different way of doing things.
I won't lie to you and say that I didn't have my moments - I still have moments that are hard, and where I feel a little depressed about the bag of poop hanging off my side, but it passes, and as I get more used to it, they a fewer and farther between. I am 31, and married, and my husband doesn't care a bit about the bag, he says it doesn't bother him in the least. You'll find a man who loves you for you, and doesn't care. It might help you weed out the duds from the studs!!! :)
Congrats sfgiants on your recovery from surgery and your positive attitude! Isn't it great to be off of meds and able to eat and be healthy again?! It's been a long time for me since I have had to take meds for CD, but I remember the pain prior to my surgery as if it were just yesterday.