It was probably a year before I ventured into wearing anything fitted. After I started wearing "It's Not Just Another Panty" undies, with a little pressure constantly on my belly, it helped with the discomfort when I walked. I didn't feel every little jolt with each step. And it also kept 'things' in place when I moved around. They were suggested by my ET way back when. When buying them, buy a size that is just snug, not tight. That was the ticket for me. They gave me a lot more confidence. And smooshing is not a problem. When I buy dress pants, I still prefer the pleated ones. They disguise the pouch well when you might not want to run to the bathroom right away, or if you are going out to dinner. I also have several pair of fitted pants, jeans. I tend not to tuck tops in anymore, just because it is more comfortable for me.
Back in the 50's and 60's when my mom had some abd surgery, they recommended she wear a girdle during the post surgery healing process to keep the constant support on her incision/abdomen. I will have to admit I questioned this idea, but it helped me.
GladBag - You really SHOULD come see the Dodgers in Spring Training. My Husaband and I have a friend that would be perfect for you. She's a Doctor, so she wouldn't care about a lil' old bag. She's not a Dodger fan, though.
And those of you with well behaved cats, please have them come teach my dog. She's forever trying to lay down on my darn bag.
I have a small plastic cup on the side of the shower/tub that I can reach from the loo and I just put some water in it in the morning and use it thru the day. After emptying I just pour enough water in the pouch so that when I hold the tail closed, and slosh it around a bit, it reaches the stoma/wafer. I believe that helps a little with controlling the odor as well, even when I use the deodorizers. Judy, I agree, it just gets dirty again in minutes, but if there is any accumulation around the stoma, it rinses that out. It still only takes me about 2 minutes to "go potty" each time, even when I rinse! Like I said, I don't rinse every time. I clean out the tail opening with tp each time that I empty, so that is not the issue in doing the rinse step. I just feel a little more "refreshed" when I rinse!!! Personal preference, that's all. Definitely not a necessary step.