Husband has melanoma

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nene205
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   Posted 11/8/2007 1:25 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi,
I haven't posted for several days because of a variety of problems. My husband who has been so faithful during my colectomy now has serious health issues of his own. He had a melanoma removed from his left cheek in 2001. According to the cancer surgeon it was only on top of the skin. Well, my husband returned in 2005 and a biopsy proved negative. Because the surgeon who was treating my husband retired, he just let it go for a couple of years. Bad, Bad mistake. We found another dermatologist in a city two hours away. ( We live way out in the boondocks.) After a biopsy, he found that the melanoma had returned! A plastic surgeon in Tuscaloosa removed the melanoma and performed a skin graft on Oct. 23. However, the plastic surgeon found a lump in my husband's neck while looking for a good place to take skin. That took us to another doctor- an endocrinologist. He will be having his thyroid taken out within the month. One thing leads to another, doesn't it?
We must keep the faith and think positive though/
 
Judy, how is your father-in-law? How old is he?
Jennie

flchurchlady
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   Posted 11/8/2007 3:05 PM (GMT -6)   
Jennie,
I will keep you and your husband in my prayers.
Cecilia

JudyK89
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   Posted 11/9/2007 10:28 AM (GMT -6)   
My father-in-law is 84, but up until his diagnosis he was still chopping wood, trimming trees, and taking care of 1/2 acre of land. He was extremely healthy, never sick. Unfortunately his melanoma started in his maxillary sinus and there were no symptoms until it had spread throughout his body. We've been told that about 50% of melanomas start in a mucous membrane (sinuses, rectum, vagina, etc) and have no symptoms until it's too late. He and his wife of 61 years were religious about going to the dermatologist every 6 months to have moles checked. Never saw this coming.

He was stage 4 at diagnosis. He's on hospice now, but doing better with this latest round of chemo. Unfortunately we know that the chemo will only help temporarily as this melanoma is particularly agressive, and will always come right back. He had a tumor grow from 1" to about 6" in 4 weeks.

We've been told that if it's in the skin, you can battle this cancer for many years. That's a good thing. It can be cut out time and time again. I'll pray for you that it doesn't spread through the lymph glands and throughout the body. Keep up the fight, you can beat this for a long time.

Does your husbands thyroid "lump" have anything to do with the cancer? Have you had it biopsied? I'll remember you in my prayers.
Judy
49 years old, Crohn's Disease   
Six resection surgeries, permanent ostomy, adverse reactions to Remicadeback on 6MP for maintenance, hoping for a long remission from this last surgery. 
 
 


nene205
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   Posted 11/9/2007 8:05 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks for responding. I have been a nervous wreck and needed to talk to someone who has "been there." Yes, he has had the lump in his thyroid biopsied but we are really concerned about the inconclusive results. He goes on the 21st for another needle biopsy.

I have never heard of melanoma inside a mucus membrane. I will be remembering your FIL in my prayers. He does sound like a great guy.

Keep the faith!
Jennie

summerstorm
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   Posted 11/9/2007 9:28 PM (GMT -6)   
i am really sorry to hear this nene i will keep ya'll in my prayers, hope all goes well
 
 
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JudyK89
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   Posted 11/10/2007 9:25 AM (GMT -6)   
Jennie,

Has he had a PET scan? If not, ask for one. It will show if the cancer has spread anywhere else in his body. Good luck, and keep me posted.
Judy
49 years old, Crohn's Disease   
Six resection surgeries, permanent ostomy, adverse reactions to Remicadeback on 6MP for maintenance, hoping for a long remission from this last surgery. 
 
 


Irish_Mom
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   Posted 11/10/2007 9:40 AM (GMT -6)   

Jennie

I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis. You're correct in that keeping the faith is the best thing you can do. I'm having a thyroid biopsy next Thursday myself. Please keep us posted on how he's doing.


Terri
 
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Breast Cancer at 36. Diagnosed in 2000. Bilateral mastectomy with reconstruction.
Total colectomy in September 2007 for colonic inertia.
Son diagnosed with Crohn's and UC at 17 (now 20). Taking Asacol and 6MP with Prednisone and Rowasa added during flareups.
Husband HLA B27 postive with ankylosing spondylitis and psoriatic arthritis.


Hopeso
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   Posted 11/12/2007 4:13 PM (GMT -6)   
I can relate and am so sympathetic with you. After 2 years of my being sick with UC and now it's been 2 years with my ostomy, my hubby has to have surgery for prostate cancer. I hope that strength will come when it is needed, and I believe it will. Stay strong, and God Bless both oof you guys.
Hopeso
 


nene205
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   Posted 11/13/2007 1:35 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi,
Thanks for the kinds words. My husband has been my rock during all this colectomy business. In fact, he is the one who puts my wafer on every 4-5 days. I am such a baby!
The endocrinologist wants us back for another needle biopsy next week, and he suggested taking only half of the thyroid out so it would be easier on the surgeon???? Am I too suspicious ? Sometimes I think these doctors are trying to "drain us dry."
Keep the faith Irish-Mom. It could be nothing to worry about.
Jennie

JudyK89
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   Posted 11/14/2007 9:00 AM (GMT -6)   
Jennie,

It's wonderful that your husband changes your wafer, my husband volunteered to when I first had my surgery, but luckily I had what I thought was a mean ET at the time who made me learn and do it, lol. I really think you need to start doing it yourself, if nothing else just to see if you can.

As far as the partial thyroidectomy,it sounds a little suspicious, either the whole thing needs to be taken out or not, a surgeon's comfort level should not be a factor. I'd get a second opinion. Most insurance companies will pay for one especially if it's for surgery.

Good luck, and keep us posted.
Judy
Crohn's Disease   
Too many surgeries, ileostomy6MP for maintenance.
 
 


peggy113
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   Posted 11/14/2007 11:23 AM (GMT -6)   

Judy --- I must have had the same "mean" ET that you had!  I had to prove I could do it before I left Cleveland Clinic.  I remember her name too!  She really was an excellent ET nurse tho.  And everyone liked her a lot.

My hubby has never helped me change my appliance.. that could be my dilemma after I have shoulder surgery on Friday as you have probably read already.   It is always good to have them trained, I guess, even if they don't do it.  When I first got my temp ileo, I was still living with my parents many, many years ago.  My poor mother could not even look at the stoma without gagging.  She just so awful about not being able to help me, but she just couldn't.  And she was raised on a farm and butchered chickens, etc. - the whole nine yards!  So I have always done it all myself.

Jennie - I agree with Judy.  I think a second opinion is in order for your husband. 

 


Peggy
      
Diagnosed with CD in 1979, many resections and meds
Perm Ileostomy July 1984 at Cleveland Clinic
Disease free since surgery 
 

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