I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis. You're correct in that keeping the faith is the best thing you can do. I'm having a thyroid biopsy next Thursday myself. Please keep us posted on how he's doing.
Judy --- I must have had the same "mean" ET that you had! I had to prove I could do it before I left Cleveland Clinic. I remember her name too! She really was an excellent ET nurse tho. And everyone liked her a lot.
My hubby has never helped me change my appliance.. that could be my dilemma after I have shoulder surgery on Friday as you have probably read already. It is always good to have them trained, I guess, even if they don't do it. When I first got my temp ileo, I was still living with my parents many, many years ago. My poor mother could not even look at the stoma without gagging. She just so awful about not being able to help me, but she just couldn't. And she was raised on a farm and butchered chickens, etc. - the whole nine yards! So I have always done it all myself.
Jennie - I agree with Judy. I think a second opinion is in order for your husband.