In 41 years of marriage, do you think that it was only IC that kept your marriage together. A husband to hold, to talk to, to share with, to dream with is what makes a marriage survive and thrive during the hard times. Yes, IC is an important element of the union, but it is not the basis of the relationship--I may venture out to say that it is the same for a man who loves his wife as it is for a woman who loves her husband. Enjoy the time you share--no matter what you are doing.
May you continue to receive zeros for years to come.
I'm the wife of a survivor and I so understand what your wife is saying. I have said it many times to my husband and I mean it with all my heart. It doesn't mean that I wouldn't give a million dollars to be able to make love with my husband like the good ole days. We are a very young couple (despite our ages) and this hasn't been easy to accept. BUT to have him with me to hug me, love on me, tell me he loves me and I can tell him back, means everything. My life would have been a real b**** without him and I'm sure thats what your wife is trying to say. I also find that I would hold it all in and say what I thought he wanted to hear so he wouldn't get upset about the problem. Then I realized (as your wife will too in her own time) that he needed to know all the feelings I had. Thats when I started opening up and realized he needed to know how I really felt. Made in big difference in communication between us. Maybe you could talk with her about it. Get it in the open. It helped us and I hope it will help you too.
Geon, You can look at it your way, but as a wife I look at it this way. Life brings us all kinds of obstacles. By the grace of god, hopefully we get through them stronger. I prefer my husband to know that I'd rather him alive and kicking even if it means sans IC or sex (whatever you guys want to call it). We are a team and my glass will always be half full with my guy. Go give your wife a big kiss and thank her for the woman she is!!
yeah you're so right Tony.....what does it mean when someone says that, it means just that I think.....My girlfriend whom I'd been dating for only six months when Dx'd is still here and never left. I told this gal I would understand she didn't sign up for thls....she said, hey, we never know what's going to happen.....she was with me at all my pre-surg appointments, was with me and my adult children during my surgery. Stayed in my room that night, slept on my couch for four nights while I was in the recliner post surgery......says alot I think....and was there today when I heard the news I was a zero.....man I owe this gal(not in her book) I've been single for 10 plus years, I think all of that scares me more than the PCa DX did!! :) I'm just saying I know what you mean Tony...and when we're lucky enough to have someone like that, when they say that.....they mean it......hang in there geon, you're a lucky man.....I believe it means she LOVES you brother......
And all this time I thought she loved me 'cause I was such a stud. Turns out the poor lass loves me just 'cause she does. I'm a lucky man. I think you are too. I've noticed that there are a bunch of high quality ladies around this place.