People usually mean well, but, because they don't understand, they can sometimes be annoying.
At a recent family gathering I was at, I was standing in the middle of some folks drinking my lemonade when, not paying attention to my mouth when I should have been, I carelessly gulped some of the lemonade down the wrong way and, of course, started coughing like crazy.
A couple of my relatives nearby, who knew my PCa situation, turned to me and asked with concern "is it the cancer?"
I felt like saying "Don't be ridiculous! I just swallowed a little of my drink the wrong way, that's all!" But I bit my tongue, said I was all right, and graciously thanked them for their concern.
I think that was the right thing to do. After all ,they were genuinely concerned about me and were sincerely asking what seemed to them to be a reasonable question. They couldn't be blamed for asking what they asked, they just didn't know any better.
I do try to cut others some slack when they, due to ignorance, think every time I hiccup I am reacting to the cancer.
Chronic prostatitis (age 60 on)
BPH w/ urinary obstruction, 6/2011
Ongoing high PSA, 7/2011-12/2011
Biopsy, 12/2011: positive 3/12 (90%, 70%, 5%)
Gleason 6, T1c
No mets, PCa likely still contained
IMRT w/ HT (Lupron), 4/2012-6/2012
PSA (8/3/2012): 0.1
PSA (12/7/2012): 0.1