Denial is a very powerful emotional response to some things we just do not feel we should have to deal with. Another member here, pcdave has talked several times about his "watchful waiting" for his PCa being self-imposed due to his inability to go have the biopsy. I understand those feelings, having experienced them myself and having basically waited for 2 years longer than I should have before having my biopsy done. Guess what I found afterwards? It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be and I do have PCa. So denial of the PSA results didn't work. The cancer is there and probably had been for several years.
To answer the enema question. I had never had one before and certainly had never self-administered one. It was kind of ackward, kneeling on the floor, butt in the air, face on the floor doing it mostly by feel, kinda hard to see in that position . The instructions say to not worry about injecting all of the solution, but I got most of it in. Stayed on the floor for a couple of minutes, then got up and waited maybe 5 or more minutes till I didn't want to hold it anymore and sat down on the toilet. Gravity did the rest. After I was done, I thought, well I guess that wasn't so bad. I just had to go through the biopsy. I am however balking at the 3 enemas the Dr. wants me to administer in order to have a sigmoidoscopy. I've already told them I won't be doing THAT till I return from Loma Linda and being treated for the PCa.
Your husband should be glad that you are concerned and he probably is. You really should not be worried for the short term though about his health or the possibility he may have PCa. You are wasting energy that would be better spent working to help him understand that you are doing this out of love and compassion and that he needs to act in his own best interest, take control of his health and have the biopsy. Take care and feel free to ask more questions.
54 years old
PSA 5.6 on 3/20/07
Biopsy on 4/20/07
3 out of 12 cores positive, 2 on the right lobe with 5% adenocarcinoma Gleason 3+3, 1 on the left lobe 10% adenocarcinoma Gleason 3+4, overall Gleason graded 7 Cancer T1C. 2nd Pathology opinion concurs.
No scans recommended as seminal vesicle and lymph involvement is shown on nomograph as less than 1-2%. All physicians have agreed with this.
Dr. recommended Da Vinci Laproscopic RP, asked for 2nd opinion. Seattle Cancer Care recommended same. Asked for Radiation referral. Recommended IMRT. Scheduled Surgery for July 9th, 2007. Had 2nd thoughts about surgery and IMRT due to potential side effects. After web research discovered Proton Beam Therapy and called Loma Linda. Now scheduled for final consult with Dr. Luu on 7/5/07, our 27th anniversary.
Hi, I am due to have a biopsy next Monday (2nd July) I am not sure if they do things differently here in OZ, but I have been instructed to take 2 Durolax tablets (supplied by Dr) 2 hours after dinner on the night before, he says "they will do the trick" hehe.....no enama
If u don't mind me saying, I view your husbands approach to this situation as being rather strange.
Oh No...The indignities of diagnosis.
This will be a difficult time for you and your husband. He will be angry at the possibility of cancer. Angry at the doctor. Angry at you. angry at himself. Angry at all the stupid things he has to put himself through to find if he does or does not have cancer. Maybe even angry at the dog.
I had some previous experience (colon cancer tests) with enemas, laxatives, fasts and tests. "God, I hope no one can see me...." If there is a positive biopsy for PCa another set of Xrays, scans ,tests, blood, urine, poop.. are required. Poked, prodded and humiliated....oh what fun !
The best thing that will happen is a negative biopsy and no prostate cancer. Hope for the best .
You can do it....both of you can do it. Don't forget to let your LOVE SHOW for each other. if the love is there you will survive.
Armchair counselling - about the stages of fear, denial, anger, etc. - aside, (e.g., Getting rid of cancer early when you are younger is better than fighting more cancer later when you have more mileage.....yada-yada-yada...)
Here are some ideas concerning an enema. I have had major surgery many times and this is what I have learned to do as a prep to surgery. While the biopsy is much less invasive and there are no anesthesia/nausea complications to avoid, there are reasons to follow the same procedure as a clear bowel will facilitate the procedure.
24 to 36 hours before the enema, I switch to a mostly liquid diet. Gatorade, Broth, Milk, maybe a few crackers. This is a full day before recommended. I exercise a lot to encourage natural bowel movements during this time. Then, when you give yourself the enema, it is more cleansing and less of just an induced bowel movement.
It is much easier if someone else gives you the enema. If it is self-administered, get two (They come in twin-packs.) and give yourself an extra 30 minutes in case you miss on the first try or have difficulty. The boxes say they are pre-lubed. HAH! Use more.
Gottes Geistesblitz mit Ihnen!
Give me, one kiss to build a dream on, and my imagination will build upon that kiss.
Sweetheart I ask no more than this, a kiss to build a dream on.
Give me one kiss before you leave me and my imagination will feed my hungry heart.
Sweetheart, one thing before we part, a kiss to build a dream on.
When I'm alone with my fancy, I'll dream of you, weavin romances, makin' believe they're true....
Give me, one kiss to build a dream on.....
Post Edited (Cedar Chopper) : 6/27/2007 4:47:58 PM (GMT-6)