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Red_34
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   Posted 1/30/2008 7:39 AM (GMT -6)   
My gma on occasion will have what I call an emotional meltdown.  This is where something trivial will set her off and she will go crying to her room.  I then have to go in there and try to figure out what was that trigger - for instance, my hubby said hi to her one morning but she didn't hear him so she ran to her room crying.  I had to explain to her that yes he did say good morning and that seemed to ease her mind because she thought that since he "didn't" say hi to her that he was mad at her.  But in the meantime, the ones around us are soooo confused because they don't know what they did!
 
But then she has minor blow outs that leave us equally reeling.  How do you all cope with the emotional aspect of this disease?  How do you explain to others about why your loved one has these emotional blowouts?  I try to explain that she can't help it and to not take it personally.  But sometimes that doesn't work.  They are just as confused as ever.
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 1/30/2008 11:38 AM (GMT -6)   
Red.This is not an easy one for sure....their emotions are all over the place the fear of what is going on with them ( I am a firm believer that somewhere in there they are still there to a degree especially with emotions).....
Ya knind oof have to put yourself in her shoes just for a sec or your friends can even try to imagine how she is feeling and how scared she is as to what is happening ..she knows SOMETHING is wrong but cannot figure it out and I am sure she is scared to pieces.....the only safe thing in her life right now is you and your hubby and family .........
She will get emotional or there are those that get violent and have very severe violent outbursts and sometimes will hurt someone that they love dearly not realizing what they are doing.........
Not all parts of the brain are totally affected with this DD so she still has emotions and sounds like she is VERY strong in the emotion dept.......My dad is as well .......I will tell him " okay have a good cry and get it out Dad"and be there when he is done to wipe his tears.......they are basically like children once again and I know I would never wish this DD on anyone.........
I just do as you have already done if dad feels slighted or ignored by someone and he has not been then I go and talk to him....and that will calm him down ........
There is no quick fix for any part of this bloody disease that I truly despise and it robs us of so much and our loved ones of so much ya know.......
YOU are doing fantastic IMHO and I am glad you ask all the questions you do .......the better you are armed with info the better you are able to handle most of it...there will be breaking points for sure hun......had a few ( quite) myself and then I just get back to doing what I can for Dad.........
Your friends can do some research into AD and find out what you are dealing with if they care too and it might help .....IF they dont live with it it definitely is hard to explain........
I am never embarrassed by what dad does ...shocked sometimes heck yes lol........he can be a sweetie one minute and then crying for what I have no idea is all about or yelling and gripping about everything and anything.. 
I truly wish I did have all the answers.........I am flying by the seat of my pants with dad...Mom was so different in her Alzheimer's so each day brings a new challenge .........
Know I am here for you as are others and we do know what you are going thru ..IT takes a very special person or family ( hubby/wife n children) to do what you's are doing..........
Deep down somewhere your GMA knows this I am sure..........Take care you .......Luvs
LYN
Ya just have to go with it or talk to the doc and have her put on amed that may help with this as well..........


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Red_34
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   Posted 1/30/2008 1:02 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks Lyn - you are such a doll :) Luckily these major outbursts aren't too often - not sure if I could handle it if was all the time. It's just so tough because the gma that moved in with me 4 years ago is not the same gma now that I knew ya know? She has been thru soooo much in those 4 years - losing her husband of 50+ years (that is the reason she moved in with us), to repetitive surgeries and bladder cancer. She often says that she is getting too old and she's tired and that she just wants to join gpa. I truly believe she is hanging on for me to tell the truth. Next week I am taking her in for a hearing test but I'm not going to tell her until the morning of the appt. She insists there is nothing wrong with her hearing but she definately does have something wrong with her hearing. So I'm hoping that if she gets hearing aids that it might make her feel more comfortable in social situations because she can understand what is being said. She feels left out because she can't hear what is going on and then that frustrates her and sends her on another emotional outburst.

I thought about the med route but I'm not sure I want her to go there yet. I know some of those meds can make them "zombies" until their body gets used to it and too she is so tiny that some of these meds don't sit well with her. She's only 4'8" and 86lbs! She's a little spitfire :)


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   Posted 1/30/2008 10:42 PM (GMT -6)   
I can totally relate to the hearing thing she is going thru I have lost 90% of my hearing in one ear and some in other due to long term usuage of Vancomycin IV ..........so the hearing doc and my doc has explained to me .I get so frustrated as well not being able to hear and having to have hubby n Cait repeat or look at me so I can read their lips .
I see it frustrates them as well

My mom was a spitfire as well and weighed only 65 lbs at time of her death.......she ate very well but just did not ever gain weight.........

I agree that it might be best to wait for meds until she really does start getting worse and hun you know I will not lie it is going to happen BUT I know you are a strong Lady and you have a family that supports you especially your hubby that is so important in this fight.........when there is not suport many marriages have fallen to the wayside over this personal choice to care for loved ones with this DD,.....Sad but so true ......
I am glad yours is still strong and hubby is supportive as well your children.......Is GMA making any headway with the daughter?

A hearing aid just might help take the edge off like you said .I will keep her and your family in my thoughts and prayers.......I am here always remember that k

Luvs ya
......Huggles to that GMA of yours k
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   Posted 1/31/2008 8:41 AM (GMT -6)   
My hubby is the greatest and I love him with my whole being. He is very supportive in EVERYTHING which makes him so great. We've been married for almost 19 years and never once has he ever let me down. I told him that at the end of June, he gets to play Mr. Mom because I'm going away for a girls weekend. And he said "Cool! Now I can fatten gma up!" lol He likes to cook her breakfast. :)

I sat down with Kate and told her exactly what was going on with gma. I told her what to expect and why gma acts the way she does. So she has been making a concentrated effort to say hi to her all the time. It's a start but I can tell that it's pleasing gma.
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 1/31/2008 8:16 PM (GMT -6)   
I am so happy for you
I too am lucky to have the support of my hubby and my Cait is fantastic with Dad.......

I am so glad your Kate is making a go at GMA I am sure it is making GMA alot happier

Make sure you have a fantastic time my friend on your Girls wknd away

Thinking of you and keeping you and family and sweet GMA in my prayers.......

Luvs
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yana
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   Posted 3/7/2008 8:04 PM (GMT -6)   
Oh i love this thread,red your gma is cute and sensitive woman,take care of her.God bless your family!!!

Enjoy your weekend everyone!!!

YANA
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   Posted 3/8/2008 3:07 PM (GMT -6)   
She ( GMA) sure does sound like a sweetie doesnt she ..........I would put her in my pocket but I know Red would not go for it ..lol

You also have a great wknd.........LYN
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Red_34
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   Posted 3/8/2008 10:56 PM (GMT -6)   
LOL Everyone wants to put gma in her pocket! Including the nurses at the hospital :)
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   Posted 3/9/2008 7:46 AM (GMT -6)   
Doesnt surprise me Sherry.......she is the type of GMA everyone wants a know ....

Take care you
Luvs
LYN
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