Soooooo sorry you and your family are having such a hard time. It is so sad to see so many people struggling to try and give their loved ones the help they need. God bless you.
I really think that a local Alzheimer's Association might be the best place to start. They have trained professionals who deal with this every day.
If you don't know how to contact a local Alz Assoc, maybe you could post the country you are living in so one of us can help you find info. In the United States, here is a link where you can enter your zip code to find local Associations: www.alz.org.
Someone else here might have a better idea. I just feel like you need some BIGGER help than I can offer.
I hope you'll keep us posted on how things go.
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