Sorry to hear about your Mom and your problems also.
When you get sucked into the medical system in this country (U.S.) with all the drugs, I'm sorry to say that you are on a downward spiral of health.
When you understand what really creates health you will understand why I am saying what I'm saying. I've done tons of research over 20 years on this subject, so I'm not just talking off the top of my head.
My Mother just recently got sucked into the system and this is what happend.
Mom had an irregular heartbeat so mostly to see what was going on, we took her to the ER. She was then admitted and started on high doses of Amiodarone to try to correct the arrhythmia. They also started her on loveanox, coumadin (rat poision), crestor, aspirin. All these drugs when she had not even been on any up to this point in her life (age 85). Also, without even talking about why these were being administered. (Her cholestrol reading a few months ago was very good??)
When I read posts like this it makes me sick. My Mom is in a facility where the patients are all demented so the doors are locked. I certainly hope that you are your Moms POA and Health Care surrogate. I tell you the stories that I read are so very familiar. The problem that I have is not only the medications that they put her on, but there is not enough help, but they are in the guidlines for the State of Florida. Would you not think that those guidelines would change for demented people??? These are people that need constant supervision and one person cannot be in 10 places at the same time.
I really do feel for you as everyone else going through this disease with a loved one. I have had my Mom in 4 facilities. What does that tell you??? I really don't want to move her again because everytime they are moved with this disease they get more and more confused.
I love her so much but I feel sometimes that I can't take it anymore. I am on meds for anxiety. Gee, can't imagine why. And as far as these doctors go, they put them on what they want. But I am going to be talking with the doctor today and that is going to change.
A word to the wise. Be your loved ones advocate. As I am reading most of you are otherwise you would not be showing such love and concern. I wish that I had known about advocacy 5 years ago when my father passed away.. If I had of read one report of a test prior to his open heart surgery, then he would have never have even had the surgery. The report stated on the test that due to being severly debilated a non-ionic dye was used. When I got this paper and looked up the meaning of this I almost threw my computer at the wall. Severely Debilated - a severly weakened state. So can you tell me how in the world his surgeon gave him a 95% chance for a better life if he had a mitre and tricuspid valve reapir done? If you are severely debillated you are not a canidate for open heart surgery. But I have to say the this was elective surgery and the surgeon knew that he would not agree to it if the odds were not in his favor. How very sad is that???? What a JERK!!! When my Mom started receiving medicare papers she was so upset by other things that were done to him she call me everyday to come over and look that them. He had other surgeries that we did not even know about not to mention my mother did not release the authorization to have it done. My father could never speak again after the surgery. And if that was not enough, come to find out he had 33 infectious diseases while in the hospital. Was never told of any of them.
Well, I am sorry that I got off track, but it makes me mad. These elderly are just a number to some people. I wonder how they would respond if it were a loved one of theirs?
Anyway, I wish all of you the best of luck and by all means stand your ground. If you have the power to make those decisions, then you make the call. The doctors may not like it, but that is just too bad. It's your loved one not theirs.