Hi Red, I don't know much about your situation but is it possibe for your Gma to have a catheter put directly into her urethra that attaches to a bag and then all the urine goes directly into the bag and just has to be emptied. I took care of my Mother for 10 yrs. and she was completely incontinent. Her urethra was like a sieve, no more muscle control so urine just leaked out of her all the time. She eventually started to get UT infections so we had to switch to diapers. I had special adult diapers which I orderd from a medical supply co. and they are much better than what you buy in the store. I also got serenity pads, the maximum strength and put 2 of those inside the diaper and then double diapered her. I got the extra large size even though she was tiny and that way the diaper wrapped around her completely. I also had to limit her intake of fluids. That is not to say she didn't have enough fluid but given her way she would have drunk the ocean if she could. I am sorry you are having such a difficult time. I just wanted to share my experience and see if it might possibly help you. It is true caring and love and commitment when you care for an elderly person. It requires such devotion and knowing how it is all I can say is God love you and bless you. And do take the scissors away. My Mom had some scissors hidden and I found her cutting the diapers off!
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