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tyno3
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   Posted 12/27/2008 4:16 PM (GMT -6)   
This latest manifestation on my Dad's part, is spitting. He'll sit and spit all day. He does use a tossue, but there's nothing to spit. It;s like he has a hair in his mouth and is doing that thing you do when you have a hair on your tongue. He also makes this "giddy-up noise where he clacks his tongue, mostly when we are driving and truthlfully, it's getting hard to occupy the same space with him. Once I asked him if he would mind not spitting until I finished eating my dinner and he flew off the handle about "änd you missy, think you're going to tell me what I can and cannot do", you know, the usual. So, I  just stopped eating around him. As far as the clacking with the tongue I just tell him (in the car) "please stop making that noise", it's distracting for me. So that one works b/c he doesn\t want to have a time out, if he's yelling or disruptive while we're driving I just find a safe spot and pull over untill evertone is sensible again.

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   Posted 12/28/2008 12:07 PM (GMT -6)   
I think you did the right thing by not eating when he is.  You could still be near by so he does not feel alone when eating but I understand how the spitting could be hard to deal with.
 
It is so sad this is happening to your Father but you are so devoted, be proud of you.
 
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tyno3
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   Posted 12/28/2008 1:58 PM (GMT -6)   
Well, we just do o the best we can. I had a supervisor onve say," pollywog,, life is just a series of adaptations. i just have to keep trying to adjust.
 
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Synthyroid .075mg., estradiol.5 mgs., Amyltriptilene, 100mgs, bedtime, Tylenol 3 PRN (six-eight, daily), Valium 7.5mgs. daily prn. Flexeril, prn (not so helpful), Zoloft,150mgs., Zomig approx. 12 per month, prn., Meds for High Blood Pressure, vary.


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   Posted 12/31/2008 9:30 AM (GMT -6)   
Sometimes with meds they may develop a tickle in the back of mouth
causing them to THINK they have spittle but more likely than not they dont

IS he able to chew on a small piece of gum???

I agree with Lil sis you are dong right bu
y not eating with him but do reinforce the reason with him
Tell him HOW it makes you feel to see this and it takes your appetite away ......

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tyno3
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   Posted 12/31/2008 2:41 PM (GMT -6)   

Gals, you're bang on. He is getting used to me sitting and waiting while he eats. It doesn't seem to affect his spirits, or his appetite too much. When he asks  "ären't you having some dinner?", I just say I got really hungry earlier and couldn't wait. He seems satisfied with that. Our schedules are staggered, anyway. My time is between 8 PM and 11 PM (when I can manage to stay awake that long. His are more like 7AM to 8 PM. I always get up at five, get dogs out, make coffee open blinds, turn heat up, and then head back to bed for a couple hours. He gets up 7 or 8 AM, gets his coffee, makes his toast, that's all he knows how to cook but there's tons of fruit, cheese, buiscuits, etc., sitting around everywhere.

The two other things that seem trivial and silly, but will make you crazy are a phrase 'tickrty tock and tockity tic. Harmless enough unless you hear it every two minutes all day for two years. The last is that tongue clacking thing, like giddy-up to a horse. He does chew gum. Doublemint because that's what his father chewed. There is always gum in the house. I don't go down to the corner w/o bringing back gum. Both dogs are wearing it, stuck mostly to their hind quarters, it's purelt haute coiffeur. Brittany and Biancia will be sporting it come spring. Thank-you and Happy New Year.


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   Posted 1/1/2009 5:54 AM (GMT -6)   
Someday hun I promise you will smile at the memory of these things............

Luvs
LYN
Happy 2009
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tyno3
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   Posted 1/1/2009 8:41 AM (GMT -6)   
hey all, thank-you Lyn and Happy New Year. Apparently, I guess, my son, is supposed to come up tomorrow, and stay for a while. That will help lots cause he talks with Dad about hunting and fishing trips they went on, that sort of stuff. Dad and I have very little in common. He left us with our crazy mother when I was ten, the oldest, of three. I practically raised my brother and sister. But Dad and I, there's not much there between us, we spent some time together, he bailed me out of lock-up a couple times, and such, but there's not much to remenisce about. Hope you all are surviving terrible blizzards, 72 hour layovers at airports and all the other fun winter holliday games. 

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   Posted 1/1/2009 6:17 PM (GMT -6)   
Keep us posted on your brothers visit wil ya '
I hope it gives you some down time too hun
'
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tyno3
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   Posted 1/1/2009 7:20 PM (GMT -6)   
Actually, it's my son who is coming, brother and sister are non-responsive. However, the only concern I have is that Dad and my son might lock horns. For example, when my son was here for xmas, dad got up after midnight, walked into living room where my son was watching TV and just walked over and shut TV off. I've warned Dad that behavior is unacceptable in this household.

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   Posted 1/2/2009 12:08 PM (GMT -6)   
You did the right thing
They still have to be told what is acceptable and what is not
Tyno
I do not envy what you are going thru
Yes I miss my dad so much but I am sort of happy he i not here to be in the pain and suffering he was in
His body was wracked with brain cancer and it spread as well as with the ad

I am here for you
You have my email hun

TRY to have a good time plz with your son
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tyno3
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   Posted 1/3/2009 3:24 AM (GMT -6)   
My son is here. I went to the big city and brought him up, and bot a moment to late. Because it's his first night up, and because my Dad is rapidly declining, I didn't lock my bedroom door because I thought if my son needed totalk or couldn't find something, he would pop in to ask. That would be ok. In stead, at 3:37, I awoke to a six ft. three man towering over me yelling about his dog. Apparently, the little dog (which is not his dog, I found it, trained it, get up everyday at 5 AM to walk him, feed him and take him to the vet, unkless sitting in your chair yelling his name bestows ownership rights he's my dog. Here's the thing, because of Fibro, sleep is a very difficuly thing for me to obtain. When I don't sleep property I get terrible migraines and even fibro flares. Just this past  two weeks has been much better for me, physically and mentally because my doctor hiit on valium, my muscles totally relax, andmy Fibro has improved due to being more relaxed and actually sleeping.  I feel like we're at some kind of turning point. I'm feeling terrified in my own home.
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